My wedding is next August and my sister just told me that she is pregnant (this is her 4th and they will all be under 6yrs at the wedding). I live in New York and my sister lives in Arizona, so I'm not sure how many of the wedding events she will be able to be involved in and now with another pregnancy it makes her involvement even less likely that she will be able to be there for me. I know she will be at the wedding, but the day is going to be fairly demanding in terms of getting ready, the ceremony, the photos and the reception. I would almost rather ask a good friend that I know will be able to commit. Her new baby would be about 3 months old by the time of the wedding and she would be breast feeding.
The way I see it I have 3 options:
A - Ask her anyway and just suck it up when she won't be there for everything
B - Ask her, but explain that there will be certain expectations and I totally understand if she can't commit, but find some other way to involve her (maybe a reading or speech?)
C - Tell her that because of the new baby it just won't be possible to include her in the wedding party.
Is it terribly selfish that I'm even thinking this way?
Any suggestions?