Crazy family, should I invite her?

IsaPort

Thank you guys for the response to my other post. I have another question, this wedding stuff is so new!

Long story short, my parents are helping to pay for the wedding. Not a lot, but a contribution nonetheless and my mother's side of the family is... crazy. I have a crazy cousin whom is just trouble, caused a fight at another wedding! A fight!, And i dont want to invite her but her parents and brothers are being invited and my mom insists that i have to.
What to do? She ruined someone's wedding already, i dont want her to ruin mine!

MoonlightSilver

Do you think she'd cause more drama if you invite her parents and siblings but leave her out? 

Jen4948

Will it upset your plans a lot to return your parents' contribution?  At least that way you'll be entitled to control your guest list without your mother insisting on inviting someone who has a history of not controlling herself at other people's events.

Peledreamsofrain

You have two options:

Number one, return the money and thus regain full control of the guest list.

Number two, invite her and assign a family member or venue security to keep an eye on her during the night.  If the problem is that she becomes intoxicated, notify the bar to cut her off.  Make sure someone is ready and on hand to escort her out at the first sign of a disruption.

OliveOilsMom

Could you just invite the aunt & uncle?  Whether its adults or kids, we usually advise against inviting only one sibling.  It can cause even more family drama to leave out one person.  I would advise that you invite her, but tell your venue that she should be escorted off the premises at any point she gets out of hand. 

vanityink

Sorry, but huge pet peeve "who is just trouble" Not whom. Whom is just trouble is like saying "her is just trouble" rather than "she is just trouble"

Sorry, as you were.

cbrown828

I am in a similar situation. I have a cousin who uses any family event as an excuse to drink too much. Many of us also believe he has a serious drug problem. I am inviting him because his mom, dad, and sister are some of my favorite people in the world, and I see them as a package deal even though he is an adult. My brother has offered to keep an eye on him and take him to the hotel in case he starts getting rowdy. Hopefully it won't come to that point, but taking him off the guest list would cause more drama in the meantime. I say invite and have a backup plan. Then let it go and enjoy your wedding!

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[QUOTE]You have two options: Number one, return the money and thus regain full control of the guest list. Number two, invite her and<strong> assign a family member</strong> or venue security to keep an eye on her during the night.  If the problem is that she becomes intoxicated, notify the bar to cut her off.  Make sure someone is ready and on hand to escort her out at the first sign of a disruption.
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</div><div>I wouldn't do that. I would just return the money if it's that big of a deal to your parents, OP. OR, venue security is fine, but I wouldn't make a family member take on that responsibility.

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