Settle a disagreement wtih FI for me...

noodle_oo

We're working on the paper items for the wedding.  I designed a menu card that looks PERFECT!  I love it, it is clean and elegant looking.  However, it does not have our name or wedding date on it.  This bothers FI and he wants to add it, but there is no space.  I replaced the title and it just looks messy and i don't like it.  I feel like it is vain to HAVE to have your name on everything for the wedding.  People won't care and they know it is your wedding.

Ugh... shoudl I compromise and just do it his way (even though it ruins my elegant layout) or convince him our names aren't necessary?

jlw1492

I chose go with the one that looks better, but I don't mean in a "Fi, you're wrong" kind of way.  Do the layout the other way and show him how messy it looks.  Maybe he'll understand better then.

aMrsin09

can you post pictures of it both ways?

[Deleted User]

Can we see it both versions?

In the grand scheme of things, I don't think having your name and date on the menu cards is a big deal. Obviously they came to your wedding, so they are going to know your names. But sometimes you just have to compromise on things esp if he is really adament about having it on there.

M&R7111

I find it tacky to have your name and wedding date everywhere!

I know who you are, and what day it is. 

The only reason I would put all of that on something was if it was going to be a keep-sake of some sorts later.  Otherwise, forget it.

pirategal03

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[QUOTE]We're working on the paper items for the wedding.  I designed a menu card that looks PERFECT!  I love it, it is clean and elegant looking.  However, it does not have our name or wedding date on it.  This bothers FI and he wants to add it, but there is no space.  I replaced the title and it just looks messy and i don't like it.  I feel like it is vain to HAVE to have your name on everything for the wedding.  People won't care and they know it is your wedding. Ugh... <strong>shoudl I compromise and just do it his way </strong>(even though it ruins my elegant layout) or convince him our names aren't necessary?
Posted by noodle_oo[/QUOTE]

That's not compromise. 

Create a design together that incorporates the things that need to be there and takes both of your opinions into account.

KatyRoseM

I think you don't need to have your names on it, however if your Fi thinks its that important it might not be worth fighting over. 

JanoBean75

FWIW, my menus don't mention us at all. I'm using mine as placecards as well as menus, so it has each guest's name on it.

Goldlie11

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[QUOTE]FWIW, my menus don't mention us at all. I'm using mine as placecards as well as menus, so it has each guest's name on it.
Posted by JanoBean75[/QUOTE]
I'm planning on doing that too

apretnik

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[QUOTE]I chose go with the one that looks better, but I don't mean in a "Fi, you're wrong" kind of way.  Do the layout the other way and show him how messy it looks.  Maybe he'll understand better then.
Posted by jlw1492[/QUOTE]

I agree with this.  I often have to take this road with my FI and he understands and usually agrees with me.  Otherwise he thinks I'm a control freak and I don't care what he thinks (which is not true...well at least the "I don't care" part of it is definitely not true).  :)

melissamc2

I don't really think there is a "right' or "wrong" on this one.  For what it's worth, we don't have our names on the menu card, nor did our friends who just got married last week.  For us, as you said, we didn't feel that our names had to be on everything.  People know where they'll be and why they are eating.

However, if he has strong feelings on this (and hasn't on very much), it can be incorporated tastefully, and you're not ready to fight to the death over a menu card layout - I would be inclined to let him "win" this one.

noodle_oo

Thanks guys!  You helped me prove my point to him and in the spirit of getting things done as fast as possible, he let me leave it my way!  Yay!  Printed and assembled last night, that's one more thing off the list!