What is the proper thing to do when you have a family member's birthday the same day as your wedding. She is married in her 30's with 2 kids... in other words a grown woman. But she is expecting some sort of mention the day of like Happy Birthday or a present table for whatever gifts. Do I laugh this off and not worry about it or do I need to make mention to my DJ that there won't be any form of Happy Birthday played? I am just a little confused, I understand that it is her birthday but it is supposed to be my day too. And after all she is a grown adult! How should this be handled?