Hi all-
My fiance and I are getting married this June. We sent out invitations a little over a week ago. Tonight, I heard from my mom that my brother's mother-in-law has realized that she was not invited and that her feelings are hurt. My mom suggested that since some of my fiance's family can't attend, we should invite my brother's mother-in-law. I'm hoping maybe someone out there can help me sort this out.
For a bit of context, we see my brother's mother-in-law at Christmas and sometimes Easter now that my brother has young children. But I don't know her very well aside from those occasions and I don't consider her part of my family. Also, maybe this doesn't matter, but I don't particularly like her.
On top of that, my brother does not get along with her very well (he tries). She is a fairly stressful woman for both my brother and my sister-in-law and she would probably invite herself to stay with them, stressing them out even more. Since my brother, his wife, my niece and nephew are ushers, bridesmaids and flower girl and ring bearer respectively, I feel like I've already given them enough to worry about. I'd really like my brother's family to be able to have a good time and I don't think that will be possible if my brother's mother-in-law is there. And to be honest, I don't want to have to deal with their mother-in-law drama during our wedding.
At this point she already knows she wasn't initially invited and I don't think that can be undone. I'm still hesitant to add her in now but I am feeling pressured to do so. What do you think I should do?
-Sarah