Advice on the guest list please?

seasidebride24

I am posting this on the Military Brides Board too.  My FI and I have a group of "friends" that are all stationed on the same boat.  Including ourselves, there are 8 of us (3 couples and 2 that are single) and for the most part it's just cookouts and occassionally going out for drinks on the weekend.  Over the past couple months, it has become glaringly apparent that two of the girls in the group don't like me and intentionally leave me out of "girls nights" and other plans.  It actually happened twice this week that my FI and I weren't invited to a party and then I wasn't invited out for a girl's night.  I'm not trying to whine or anything, I never felt close to either of them anyway, but now my FI and I are wondering if we should even invite them to the wedding.  They know we are keeping it small and could probably avoid too much drama with that excuse, but I don't know the exact etiquette for this situation. I'm finding it hard to want to extend an offer of hospitality to our wedding to people who don't want to be around me/us during daily life.  Thanks for any advice you all may have!

SEWF

I would say if they start being nicer, they could warrant an invite. But if they purposely leave you out on girls night, I think it's fine to purposely leave them off the guest list. You want people there who you actually like.

NillaWafer10

Leaving you out of things means they aren't your friends.

MyNameIsNot

If you don't like them and don't consider them friends, you don't have to invite them. The only etiquette that comes up here is if they are part of those 2 couples.  If so, cutting them from the list means cutting their s/o's also.  If these two are married/dating guys that your FI considers friends, is he ok with cutting those guys out too?  

Ghoti

You have another 8 1/2 months to decide, I wouldn't make any decisions now. A lot can happen in 8 months, particularly in military life
Sorry they leave you out, could it be because they feel like you wouldn't be interested? Since you're not single? Not completely logical, I know, but girls are weird.

seasidebride24

One of the girls is part of a couple and the other one has a SO, but he never hangs out with us.  The other couple in the group is in the WP, and the other single person will likely be transferred down to VA this May to be closer to his kids so he probably won't be able to come.  Which means the only people from the group that are coming to the wedding are in the WP.  My FI isn't very close to the guy involved and there were potential problems with him and the open bar which would be irrelevant if he didn't come, so it's almost a win-win.  Thanks for all the advice and support!  I have tried several times to connect with these girls and they've blown me off every time.  I just got fed up with the situation and I would much rather invite some of our other friends from other circles who actually care about us and support us, but I felt obligated to invite these people.  Thanks again all!!!