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Any one have parentals who WON'T meet?

The post about introducting the parents got me wondering...

My parents live in AZ.  His live in TN.  We're having events here in WI (FI lives in NJ...I'll be moving there).  His mom is sick (ALL) with a supressed immune system that doesn't really allow for travel or being around large groups of people.  My mother doesn't like to travel (refuses to fly) and I'm lucky that she's going to come up this way for anything.  With these extenuating circumstances, the likelihood of our parents meeting are slim.

I've met his parents, he's met mine...they just probably aren't going to meet each other.  Wondering if anyone else has a similar situation.

Re: Any one have parentals who WON'T meet?

  • So, these parents aren't coming to the wedding?
  • The first time I was engaged, the first time they were going to meet would have been at the wedding, and that would have been probably the last time they would have seen each other either. They just...were from TOTALLY different ends of the spectrum and had zero to nothing in common and probably would have hated each other.

    Huh. Dodged ANOTHER bullet with that one, there.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_one-parentals-wont-meet?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f1f6cacc-3aea-42e7-990a-d98a627de584Post:d33fb60d-e291-491d-9ca2-605836a61d2a">Re: Any one have parentals who WON'T meet?</a>:
    [QUOTE]So, these parents aren't coming to the wedding?
    Posted by navybaby1113[/QUOTE]

    That would be correct (his).  His dad MIGHT come (parents are divorced), but the likelihood of that is slim.  We thought about having the wedding in TN, but FI pointed out that most of the people invited are on my side (he's a bit of a loner and doesn't have a ton of friends).  As it is, we're getting married in Hawaii and having an AHR in WI after we come back.


    (And yes, everyone is invited to Hawaii...in case that is in question.)
  • Our parents didn't meet until the wedding, and even then, they had to introduce themselves cause I was busy.  And, they're about 20 years different in age, location, blah blah blah.  I don't really care.  It's more about us getting along with each others families than them getting along.
  • My Dad and Step-mom didn't meet his parents until the wedding. My Mom and Step-dad met them once prior to the wedding.
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  • Our moms will be meeting at my bridal shower, but everyone else won't be meeting until the rehearsal dinner.
  • our parents aren't meeting until the wedding.

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  • The first time my parents met BF's mom and stepdad was when we got in a car accident about halfway between their houses. We were on our way to his mom's, so she picked us up, but the car was totaled so she drove us back halfway a couple days later and my parents met us to drive us back to my car. They talked for maybe 5 minutes. Since then the moms have met a few times and talked more (baby showers and stuff) and my dad and his stepdad have seen each other and basically said hi. They are really different and would never be BFF's but they got along fine.

    I am more afraid of my mother meeting his jerk of a father. My mother is an huge feminist and very opinionated and his father is a huge sexist and very opinionated. If the wrong subject came up there would be an argument, and then most likely his father would have to tell me what a bitch she was every time we saw him. Fun.
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  • Our parents have met twice, and that's probably it until the week of the wedding.  FI's family is in Boston, mine is in central Kentucky.  His parents come down here a couple of times a year to visit, so we've gotten everyone together for dinner once, and then all went to my grandparents farm once.  (FI's family had never seen a real farm before, ridden a horse, etc.)

    The first meeting was difficult to plan, though.  My parents seemed really disinterested in it & it took a lot for me to get them on board.  They all got along, though.
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  • They won't meet until the week of the wedding, I'm thinking about doing a "break the ice" dinner a few days prior. We aren't having a rehearsal so a traditional rehearsal dinner is not necessary. I figure get them on neutral ground. They aren't totally different, but don't hold a lot in common. It's going to be weird having everyone in the same room.
  • Yup. We live in California. His parents live in Massachusetts, mine live in upstate New York (about 400+ miles apart). They'll probably meet at the rehearsal dinner.
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  • My Mom died 38 years ago, and my Dad died 12 years ago.  My ex-H's parents came to my recent wedding, and met DH's Mom at the rehearsal.  They all got along famously, and we all met up again for Thanksgiving 2 weeks ago.  I have yet to meet (or speak to) my current FIL. 

    Families are so weird - can we set up some sort of Free Agency to trade away the wackos we can't stand and trade up for people we actually like?  Please?
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