Late shower invite....

tigger9922

I recieved a shower invitation in the mail on tuesady for next Saturday the 28th.  Unfortuantely, I'm not able to go because I already have a jam packed day, but I would really love to send a small gift.  The problem, there is no registry info anywhere at all.  I searched the web for something and also emailed the hostess about it with no response so far.  I'd really like to send a gift so it might be there by her shower date, but I don't have a lot of time since its so close.  WWYD?  I don't want her to think I didn't want to come or send her a gift.  I just didn't have enough notice. 

marisah83

If no one gets back to you about registry info, I would just get a gift card to a store local to her that you think she likes.

pinkpinot

Are we invited to the same shower?  I got a shower invite in the mail without registry info but I found out the bride has a honeymoon registry so I don't understand what to do.  Am I suppose to just randomly buy a gift for her to have something to open or just "donate" to their honeymoon and go to the shower empty handed?

To answer your question, I'd probably send her a gift card to Bed, Bath & Beyond or something like that - unless you hear back from the hostess and have time to purchase something small from her registry.

Beachy730

Gift cards to somewhere like Target or Bed Bath & Beyond are always useful.  Even if I'm not registered there, I could always find something to use it on, even if its cleaning supplies or something at Target.  If nobody gets back to you in enough time, then I would just do that.  Besides, if you buy an actual gift and mail it or have it shipped thats more money you have to pay in shipping that you can just put towards a gift card.

PharmacyBride

My best non registry gift was wine glasses with a Christmas design on them.  I registered for a lot of wine glasses, so I guess she knew I would like them.  Maybe she had them for years and was trying to get rid of them.  I recommend the internet (they will be impossible to find in stores) and either make the bride's address yours or give it to someone you know will attend.

If this doesn't pan out.. you can always go with kitchen supplies (can never have enough cookie sheets) and include a gift receipt.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]Are we invited to the same shower?  I got a shower invite in the mail without registry info but I found out the bride has a honeymoon registry so I don't understand what to do.  Am I suppose to just randomly buy a gift for her to have something to open or just "donate" to their honeymoon and go to the shower empty handed? To answer your question, I'd probably send her a gift card to Bed, Bath & Beyond or something like that - unless you hear back from the hostess and have time to purchase something small from her registry.
Posted by pinkpinot[/QUOTE]

And THAT is why it's awkward to have a shower if you don't have a physical registry.

OP, have you gone to places like Target.com, Bed Bath and Beyond, Crate and Barrel, etc and looked up registries? Or just googled? I think sometimes those registries don't come up on google.

tigger9922

I went to individual sites and searched for her name.  I tried her given name and the name she goes by, nothing.  So after I checked the places I could think of; BBB, Target, Kohls, Penny's, Macy's, I went to registry.com and searched.  Still nothing.  Hopefully I will hear back from the hostess cause I really hate to be shooting in the dark here. lol.  I want to get her something she will love and will keep.  Thats why I usually go with the registry unless they are a really close friend and I know of something else they want that isnt' on the registry. 

I have a feeling that she doesn't have a registry, which really sucks for her.  I know the wedding planning was quick and then there was an unexpected pregnancy, so maybe they are hoping to get money and gift cards.  IDK.

balasj

I would try a phone call to the hostess to find out.  If not, then the other recommendations are good - either a gift card or something using your good judgement with a gift receipt accompanied.  The standard items like picture frames or a vase work or else have a little fun and get something unique like a set of unique martini glasses or some placemats in her favorite color.