Invitation wording

Pookieson

Hello!  Keeping it short and sweet....I have a 5 year old daughter from a previous marriage and he has never been married.  His parents are divorced and remarried, mine are still married.  We will be paying for most of the wedding ourselves but all three sets of parents will be contributing in one way or another, some a little more than others, but still giving something.

For the invites I was going to say
Together With Their Parents
Blah Blah and Blah Blah Blah
Invite you to share in their joy 
yadda yadda etc.

2 out of 3 sets of the parents want me to put ALL names on the invite.  The other set doesn't care either way and says do what we want.
So it will read.
Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Smith,
Mr. and Mrs. James and Joy Jones
and Mr. and Mrs. Bob and Barbara Barker
invite you to join in the marriage of their children
blah blah and blah blah blah 
..............................................
I've budged on other things I was willing to give up the fight on because it was just little stuff.  But I this one.....I really don't want to.  It's not a horribly big deal, I know....but I just think it's really wordy and people will open and it and go....whoa....that's a lot of names....now who is who????

Should I bite the bullet and give them their names?
Stand our ground and keep our wording?

Also....if you have alternate wording that might make all parties happy, I'm all ears open....errrr....eyes...I guess would be more appropriate.

THANKS LADIES! 

LeiselEB

It's really not unusual to have all names listed on invitations. However, are all these people hosting the wedding? Or do they just want their names on the invitation? Contributing to the wedding is not the same as hosting. 

If you do end up listing all names, there should be no commas or "and" between sets of names. Just list them each on separate lines. It should be just "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith" or "Jane and John Smith". 

The only alternative would be listing no host:

The pleasure of your company is requested

at the marriage of

Bride Full Name

and

Groom Full Name

etc.

CFM102012

Yours is a perfect situation for "Together with their families". If you are mostly paying for the wedding yourselves you get the most say. Do it how you want.

crash2729

Stand your ground. 

Together with their families is perfectly acceptable. 

You can list everyone's names in the program, if you are having those.

pokepoke27

I would stick with "Together with their families". Putting all those names on the invitation makes it look cluttered.

In the programs you can put a little note:

"From the Bride and Groom -

We would like to give a special thanks to parents 1, 2, and 3 for making this very special day possible. We greatly appreciate their love and support. 

Or something to that effect. 

DramaGeek

I would stick with Together with their families on this one.  If the parents are really being awful, lie and tell them there isn't enough room on the invitation for everyone's name to be listed.

carolemb

Is it a formal wedding or a more casual wedding?

For my formal wedding my stationary store advised me to go with something like this:

Mr. and Mrs. John Joseph Doe
Mr. and Mrs. Charles Daniel Smith
request pleasure of your presence (or whatever)
at the wedding ceremony uniting their daughter
Jennifer Jean
and
Joseph John Altman
son of
Mr. and Mrs. Henry Luke Wattson
Mr. and Mrs. Mark Micheal Altmam
 ....etc.
Oh and they made a point to tell me that the Mom's names (which would be their new husband's names if your being formal) alway go first.
* and of course I made up all those names

Pookieson

Thank you ladies!
To answer a few questions...it isn't incredibly formal, but not jeans and t-shirt casual either.  It's a local country club that does have a moderate dress code (collar shirts, etc), it's definitely not a black tie affair.

On the contributing, grooms parents are covering the bar, his mom and step dad are paying for almost all of the catering fee.  My parents are covering about half of the catering.  We are paying the rest.

I LOVE the idea of having their names in the program.  I think that may be a problem solver!  We are having programs so that is PERFECT!  I planned on putting them in it anyways, don't know why I didn't think of that earlier!  Thank you!