bachelorette party for DW

soontobehasrouni

is it ok for the bridesmaid to invite people to the bachelorette party that arent invited to the wedding? Only those invited to wedding will be invited to bridal shower 

Peledreamsofrain

Not generally no, unless perhaps the person in question was invited to the wdding and couldn't make it due to schedule conflicts.

If you exclude someone from the wedding, you're telling them they are only good enough to get drunk with, not to witness you getting married.  Not very flattering message.

soontobehasrouni

thats what i figured. Ive read a few people say its ok if a BM invites them to party (which doesnt make much sense) 

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[QUOTE]Not generally no, unless perhaps the person in question was invited to the wdding and couldn't make it due to schedule conflicts. If you exclude someone from the wedding, you're telling them they are only good enough to get drunk with, not to witness you getting married.  Not very flattering message.
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Peledreamsofrain

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[QUOTE]thats what i figured. Ive read a few people say its ok if a BM invites them to party (which doesnt make much sense)  In Response to Re: bachelorette party for DW :
Posted by soontobehasrouni[/QUOTE]

Yeah, in theory you can get away with claiming the BMs made the decision.  But the BMs get the guest list from the bride.  At the end of the day, the bride gets eyed for the results, and for any hurt feelings.

soontobehasrouni

yeah, destination wedding 

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[QUOTE]Does DW stand for destination wedding?  Is that why invitees to bachelorette party are not coming to wedding?
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AJG456

Etiquette wise, no. Anyone at a prewedding party should be invited to the wedding. However, what kind of party are we talking about here? 

A friend of mine for various budget/family reasons was able to invite only a couple friends to her wedding (and they were BM's). Her BM's threw her a bachelorette party and invited friends of hers that weren't invited to the wedding.  The party was just going out to bars in our college town.  I bought her a couple drinks, had some fun and went home.  It didn't bother me at all in that case that I wasn't invited to the wedding.  Had it been a big destination party to Vegas I might have felt different. 

But, I don't know how the friends in this situation would feel- that's just my personal story. So I guess to be safe and not offend anyone, probably not.