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LinD25

My family is quite large and we have decided to not include most of my cousins who are children. FI still wants to invite his two cousins who are young children. I find it weird, but he insists, so okay. The issue is that I have a half brother who I have recently become closer to and he has a daughter. I would like to have my neice there, but wasn't sure if I should because we've cut all the other children on my side. I was kind of thinking that since she's my neice and not a second cousin like the others, she closer so it would be ok, but I'm not really sure. Any thoughts?

rebarobert2012

It's easier if you have a clear cut off when it comes to children, but really, which children you invite is up to you and your fiance.

lisa3185

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[QUOTE]It's easier if you have a clear cut off when it comes to children, but really, which children you invite is up to you and your fiance.
Posted by rebarobert2012[/QUOTE]

I agree 100%.  Its your choice.  I am not inviting any children to my celebration except my 3 nephews and my niece.

lopezalonso

It is better if you say (1) NO children, (2) ALL children, or (3) ONLY children in the wedding party. Are you having children in the wedding party? You could include them if you wanted to. If not, I would invite them since they are close family and you want them there but be prepared for people asking why they had to leave their kids at home and these kids got to attend.

LinD25

There is a cut off. No second cousins. The children would be FI's 2 cousins who are young as he insists they be there and my neice who is a little older than them. I just wasn't sure if this would cause a problem on my side of the family because I invited my neice, but not my second cousins.

LinD25

There are no children in the wedding party. I don't even want a actual wedding party.

LinD25

I would prefer NO children, but I can't get FI to budge on his two cousins. So that still begs the question on my side as to why his side brought kids and mine didn't even I don't have my neice.

maribeth721

I think a niece is a little different than a second cousin. I would invite your niece if you think it's important and not worry about other kids. Niece is more of immediate family and that can be your cut off.