Can my mom throw me a bridal shower at my house?

FinleyF

My fiance and I are having a VERY low-key wedding and reception (it's his 2nd wedding, but my first). Everything is DIY and low budget. A friend of mine is getting married a month before me, so I get to be a part of all of her celebrations. I thought I didn't want a bridal shower, but after seeing hers, it really looks like a lot of fun! I don't have a bridal party, so I don't have a MOH to throw me a shower. My Mom has offered to "host" one for me, but it would have to be at my home because hers is undergoing renovations. Is this bad etiquette?

caleblindy

My mom hosted my bridal shower, but she's also my MOH so it made sense. She hosted it at a local upscale restuarant during happy hour and everyone had a great time. It was in the afternoon, so we had lots of appetizers and drinks. It didn't cost a ton and my mom didn't have to do any decorating because the private room at the restaurant was already so cute.

marleylikeair

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_former-lurker-posting-say-there-hope-of?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:4dac5df6-1947-4dde-ac6b-050224f6b560Post:a27e9e77-fe73-4220-a16b-811e182ea802">Re: Former lurker, posting to say, THERE IS HOPE FOR ALL OF US!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]It makes sense Marley, I just think the Captain-save-a-newb routine can grate on people at times. Kind of like what Audgie said about things being subjective. But maybe I'm in the minority with my opinions, and frankly, I think I'm just tired of a lot of this. <strong>I'm just going to say that I agree to disagree.</strong>
Posted by heyimbren[/QUOTE]

Yep, agreed.

I guess if the rudeness can grate on me, I can continue to offer a friendly word to newbs, even if that grates on people. Like I said, I'm mainly doing it to be cordial to newcomers, so if regs get tired of reading it...oh well, I guess. Could be a lot worse.

jesshamme

My FMIL is hosting one shower for us in WV and my mother is hosting a shower for us in PA. It seemed so normal for us that we didn't even realize someone might question it. Sometimes I believe that these "rules" and "etiquette" (outside of chewing with one's mouth closed, etc.) are terrible attempts to divide people into classes. A shower is meant to celebrate a couple or a bride and to supply them/her with the things she will need to begin her life! Keep it simple and don't invite anyone who will cause drama.

MeganAngela

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_can-mom-throw-bridal-shower-house?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f392fd95-11d3-4654-bb96-9c4f958e1d86Post:9a4c698b-df41-42f0-9e2f-1d316fc2463d">Re: Can my mom throw me a bridal shower at my house?</a>:
[QUOTE]I have a random question, if you don't have a bridal party, who shows up to these things? Is there a reason that your friends aren't throwing you one?
Posted by Ghoti[/QUOTE]

<div>The same people show up that would if you had a wedding party (i.e. close friends and family).  Perhaps friends aren't throwing one because they don't have the money or resources.  I'm not having a wedding party, and my FMIL and FSIL have already offered to host a bridal shower this fall.  We're inviting close female family and friends who are going to be invited to the wedding.  And my friends aren't throwing a party because 1) they don't live in the area and 2) they don't have the money to in this economy.</div><div>
</div><div>Or, and this isn't necessarily true about the OP, but is a general comment, not everyone has tons and tons of friends.  Some people are introverts with only a few close friends.  Should those women not be allowed to have a party because they don't have a large group of girls they hang out with?  I can't imagine anyone denying a person a party just because they don't have a ton of friends or party savvy friends who would throw a party.</div>