bridesmaid dress price

sschiet

I am in my friend's wedding (6 months) away, and she picked out a bridesmaid dress for us at a boutique in her hometown.  That bridal boutique has sent us all an email with instructions for ordering the dress/sending measurements/paying for the dress/shipping, etc.  I looked up the dress online and found several reputable websites which are selling the same dress for over $100 less than the store that she is working with.  Is it inapprorpiate to ask if I can buy the dress online instead of through this bridal salon she has chosen?  I don't want to be difficult or stress her out at all - it's just that $100 is a big difference.  Should I ask, or just go with the flow?

Miss Esa

$100 is a huge difference in price for a dress. I would let the Bride know that you found the same dress online, and that you want to order it from the website and not the store. I don't see any reason why she would have a problem with that. 

QueerFemme

I would tell her you are going to be ordering the dress elsewhere, because of the cost savings.  But, make sure you aren't ordering it from a knockoff site.  You and the bride will likely be very dissapointed if you get yours from a knockoff site and they don't match the other BMs at all.

ETA:  For example,  I know you said reputable... but some people think "lightintheox" is reputable.  

loca4pook

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[QUOTE]I am in my friend's wedding (6 months) away, and she picked out a bridesmaid dress for us at a boutique in her hometown.  That bridal boutique has sent us all an email with instructions for ordering the dress/sending measurements/paying for the dress/shipping, etc.  I looked up the dress online and found several reputable websites which are selling the same dress for over $100 less than the store that she is working with.  Is it inapprorpiate to ask if I can buy the dress online instead of through this bridal salon she has chosen?  I don't want to be difficult or stress her out at all - it's just that $100 is a big difference.  Should I ask, or just go with the flow?
Posted by sschiet[/QUOTE]

Keep in mind, alot of these places online are chines knockoff sites. I originally had that with my own wedding dress. I found it for hundreds cheaper and then realized WHY. luckily, I didn't end up biting on those knockoff sites...but I came close! LOL


Be careful with buying online unless you can guarantee it is a legit store

hoffse

PP's are right - find a place that is truly reputable and not a knock-off place.  I found a place like this - a little place up in Minnesota that was selling dresses for way less than other places.  They came in and were totally fine.  I felt ok with it because it was an American company that clearly had huge sales online, and that's why their prices were lower.

AJuliaNJ

To be honest, I'd be a little stressed out about it as the bride. I do understand, but I would really rather not get this call. I'd be worried it is a knockoff of the dress. I don't know if I should buy into the dye lots thing or not, but it would definitely be on my mind. I feel like there are more guarantees when you get it from the shop. I would just like the piece of mind of having the dress come from the store I selected. I have no way of knowing whether that site was legit.  I would never ever consider calling the bride with something like this.

LizM61409

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[QUOTE]To be honest, I'd be a little stressed out about it as the bride. I do understand, but I would really rather not get this call. I'd be worried it is a knockoff of the dress. I don't know if I should buy into the dye lots thing or not, but it would definitely be on my mind. I feel like there are more guarantees when you get it from the shop. I would just like the piece of mind of having the dress come from the store I selected. I have no way of knowing whether that site was legit.  I would never ever consider calling the bride with something like this.
Posted by AndreaJulia[/QUOTE]

<div>But is peace of mind worth an extra $100? That's a lot of money. If the site checks out to be legit I see no problem with it, and if I were that bride, I would feel bad that I hadn't found it cheaper for them.</div>

AJuliaNJ

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: bridesmaid dress price : But is peace of mind worth an extra $100? That's a lot of money. If the site checks out to be legit I see no problem with it, and if I were that bride, I would feel bad that I hadn't found it cheaper for them.
Posted by LizM61409[/QUOTE]

I can't help how I feel, and I wanted to be honest because I'm sure I'm not the only bride that would feel this way. I've felt extremely overwhelmed with all the moving pieces and demands of family members, and would just appreciate not adding an extra thing to worry about to my plate. I would actually prefer that the bridesmaid come to me and say she is having trouble affording the extra $100 and help them out in purchasing the dress I selected.

I feel like in this situation, I would feel pressured to say yes, and then things would go awry in some way. Something similar happened with my BM dresses. The girls that came with me wanted this one strapless dress but they wanted straps added. I tried to push them towards a dress that already had straps and was very similar because it would be cheaper and less work for everyone. The girls swore it would not be a pain in the butt and I agreed. It has already caused 2 very annoying and unnecessary problems. Annoying and unnecessary problems are exactly what I want to avoid.

sschiet, your friend may agree to this, but I doubt she's going to be thrilled, whether she expresses that or not.

megannie

One of my bridesmaids found a reputable site that offered the dress they chose for 90.00 cheaper. I told the bridal salon, and they couldn't match the price, so we ordered them online. We checked with the dress designer, and confirmed this was a reputable seller of their merchandise. They were the exact same dress, and the girls saved a lot of money.

I would check and make sure this is a confirmed seller of the dress.....check the designers website, and if so, notify the bride. She will probably be happy to save her BM's some money under the circumstances.

s-aries8990

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: bridesmaid dress price : I can't help how I feel, and I wanted to be honest because I'm sure I'm not the only bride that would feel this way. I've felt extremely overwhelmed with all the moving pieces and demands of family members, and would just appreciate not adding an extra thing to worry about to my plate. I would actually prefer that the bridesmaid come to me and say she is having trouble affording the extra $100 and help them out in purchasing the dress I selected.<strong> I feel like in this situation, I would feel pressured to say yes, and then things would go awry in some way. </strong>Something similar happened with my BM dresses. The girls that came with me wanted this one strapless dress but they wanted straps added. I tried to push them towards a dress that already had straps and was very similar because it would be cheaper and less work for everyone. The girls swore it would not be a pain in the butt and I agreed.<strong> It has already caused 2 very annoying and unnecessary problems</strong>. Annoying and unnecessary problems are exactly what I want to avoid. sschiet, your friend may agree to this, but I doubt she's going to be thrilled, whether she expresses that or not.
Posted by AndreaJulia[/QUOTE]

This BM is taking the burden on to herself, if she ends up ordering from a bad site, it'll be on her to come up with the full BM dress price in addition to what she spent on the knock-off OR will have to remove herself.

Andrea, the BM's shouldn't be bringing their alteration problems to you; they chose that dress and they wanted to overhaul them.... not your problem. Is there a way you can kindly explain that to them?

princess pop

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: bridesmaid dress price : I can't help how I feel, and I wanted to be honest because I'm sure I'm not the only bride that would feel this way. I've felt extremely overwhelmed with all the moving pieces and demands of family members, and would just appreciate not adding an extra thing to worry about to my plate. I would actually prefer that the bridesmaid come to me and say she is having trouble affording the extra $100 and help them out in purchasing the dress I selected. I feel like in this situation, I would feel pressured to say yes, and then things would go awry in some way. Something similar happened with my BM dresses. The girls that came with me wanted this one strapless dress but they wanted straps added. I tried to push them towards a dress that already had straps and was very similar because it would be cheaper and less work for everyone. The girls swore it would not be a pain in the butt and I agreed. It has already caused 2 very annoying and unnecessary problems. Annoying and unnecessary problems are exactly what I want to avoid. sschiet, your friend may agree to this, but I doubt she's going to be thrilled, whether she expresses that or not.
Posted by AndreaJulia[/QUOTE]

This.