Help! Save-the-date dilemma!

xxbrokendreamsxx

Okay, so first off, I should probably mention that due to unforseen circumstances my FI and I, didn't actually set the wedding date till about a month ago. Which is why I found myself in this current situation.
The date is set for October 13th of this year and I'm a little lost at what to do.
I know normally save-the-dates should be sent out 5-6 months prior to the wedding, but given the circumstances, I was planning to just send them out during the first week of July(Which would be about three months in advance) and then sending out the actual invitations in mid-to-late august. What I'm wondering is, is given the fact that the wedding is already so close should I just skip the save-the-dates all together?
Most of our guests are from out of town though, so I suspect that sending out the cards would come in handy?
I'm trying to make a decision by tomorrow as I plan to order everything tomorrow.

Thanks in advance for any advice!

ILoveToRobot

If you can send cards to those that are out of town ASAP it would be handy. STD's are not mandatory though.

ElisabethJoanne

Call or e-mail VIPs, out-of-town guests: "We won't be sending printed save-the-dates, but we wanted to let you know we've set the wedding date for October XX. We'll be sending printed invitations in a few months."

DramaGeek

I'd skip the STDs.  Are your guests people you talk to on a regular basis anyway?  A heads up about travel would be great, but you an do that via phone or email.

xxbrokendreamsxx

I do understand that STD's aren't mandatory, I just know that personally I always prefer to recieve one over a call, or email. Most of these people I don't talk to on a regular basis, due to conflicting work schedules and what not.

Mirahbelle4

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-save-the-date-dilemma?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f4365b1f-f6ec-4964-b826-8413f10296faPost:82132d03-9035-4b25-a55b-c8dc40956847">Re: Help! Save-the-date dilemma!</a>:
[QUOTE]I do understand that STD's aren't mandatory, I just know that personally I always prefer to recieve one over a call, or email. Most of these people I don't talk to on a regular basis, due to conflicting work schedules and what not.
Posted by xxbrokendreamsxx[/QUOTE]
Like PP said, I would stick with an email. It will be immediate as well, so you won't have to go through the motions of ordering, preparing and addressing STDs, and your guests will know right away.

amorg334

You should skip save the dates. at this point and most people send there invites 8 weeks before the wedding to get a good idea of who is coming.  You should maybe get an email list together just to give people a heads up

saranandy

Eh, if you really want to and feel like it would be easier than calling or emailing everyone, go for it. It's true, it's a bit late at this point, but STDs aren't required in the first place, so I don't think bending the usual guidelines about when to send them would be too big a faux pas. I might just print them myself though and send them out like right about now though, rather than waiting for July. Or you could just send out invites a bit early too, I guess...I think TK recommends sending them out at the three month mark, but then I know many knotties do not agree with a lot of TK's advice, and that's definitely the earliest recommended send time I've seen. Meh. FI got an invite to an OOT wedding at about three months earlier this year, and I don't think it occurred to either of us to be bent out of shape about it being "early." ;-)

jessicabessica

If you really want to send them, just send them.  We did email save the dates and that's my preference, but it's fine if you want to send cards.  I wouldn't waste time getting something special printed (like magnets), though--use whatever option will let you get them out the fastest.  

Ali092011

I agree with sara and jessica. If you want to send them, order them and send them ASAP. I don't think it's a giant faux pas--from an etiquette standpoint, there's nothing about it that would make your guests uncomfortable. But I would order them today and get them in the mail by the weekend.

As others suggested, you could also just send invitations a little early if you're worried about people making plans.

AbbynBrian13

eh I'd just skip them.

Maggie0829

Honestly, I would save your money and just email the VIPs that will need to travel.

STDs are not necessary and most people can make travel arrangements in the 2-2.5 months between your wedding and when the invites go out.

wadingmoose

I'd skip them.

I rarely receive STDs and I've always been able to attend the weddings I want to attend.

xxbrokendreamsxx

Thanks for all the help everyone, we've decided to skip the printed STD's and are debating on other ways to contact people. (We all work such conflicting schedules that calling people is difficult and not everyone has an email or facebook) So wish us luck! We might just send the invites a little early(like maybe the end of July instead of mid-august)