i'm newly engaged and my FI and i are hoping to host an engagement party in the spring. we want to do an hors d'oeuvres & cocktails type thing at a local restaurant. my question is, who pays for this? would it be inappropriate to have friends & family (about 25 of them, very close) pay their own bar tabs, but us pay for the food? we're both just finishing grad school this year so moneys tight, not to mention we're footing the bill for our entire wedding with no help from our parents. still, we'd like to celebrate as everyone keeps asking us when our e-party is.. even though we thought we'd just skip it to save costs.
thoughts? thanks in advance!