GAH!

angel2210

Saturday was the deadline for our RSVPs. There were very few left that I hadn't received so contacting those people has been pretty easy. However, I hadn't heard anything from my dad's dad and I don't have his phone number so I shot him an email, told him we needed to know because our final count is due to the venue Monday. The response I got was "will try, but not promising." What am I supposed to do with that? I'll try to have food for you if you decide to show, but not promising. Grr.

Brie2010

Reply and say, "I need to know for sure right now.  We have to give final numbers to the caterer ASAP.  Thanks!  We hope you can make it."

PreppySailor

I agree, you need to be firm about getting an answer. Could you have your dad phone?

ThePinkSuperhero

It's one person.  I don't believe in harassing guests.  Just include him in the count, and if he doesn't come, oh well.

Lisa8888

I would include him in on the headcount.

angel2210

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gah?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f5490a76-9d48-40b7-9420-c8412e5d6166Post:2baeb801-f529-40d5-bc10-2ab9d41e5965">Re: GAH!</a>:
[QUOTE]I agree, you need to be firm about getting an answer. Could you have your dad phone?
Posted by PreppySailor[/QUOTE]

He and my dad don't really speak much. Besides, my dad's the one that told me he couldn't make it via Facebook but didn't want to send the RSVP card back because he wanted "to keep the whole thing as it came" (which, funy side note, my sister stole the RSVP card out of the envelope and sent it to me with her yes on it, haha) so he prbably wouldn't see much problem in his dad's response anyway.

I'll email him back. I think the RSVP crap has been the most stressful part of this entire ordeal.

angel2210

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gah?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f5490a76-9d48-40b7-9420-c8412e5d6166Post:d1360f6d-d082-4af0-a9b3-79aa909a5dd0">Re: GAH!</a>:
[QUOTE]It's one person.  I don't believe in harassing guests.  Just include him in the count, and if he doesn't come, oh well.
Posted by ThePinkSuperhero[/QUOTE]

It's two people and I'm working on a budget here. I can't just throw money into hoping someone will show.

JenO24

I agree that you need to know.
Try to get a straight answer while being tactful, which I'm sure you will be.
I dont think theres anything wrong in wanting an accurate #...you're right, we're talking about money here!.
RSVPs have been the most stressful for me too - I feel your pain!

andyandhillary

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gah?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f5490a76-9d48-40b7-9420-c8412e5d6166Post:d1360f6d-d082-4af0-a9b3-79aa909a5dd0">Re: GAH!</a>:
[QUOTE]It's one person.  I don't believe in harassing guests.  Just include him in the count, and if he doesn't come, oh well.
Posted by ThePinkSuperhero[/QUOTE]

I agree.  I know you're on a budget, OP, but will this one guest really ruin all of it?  You may have several no shows the day of (hopefully note!) but you can't dwell on it.  I usually vote for being ove- prepared than under-prepared.