.

cebrady89

.

The Mel and Todd Show

What post is being referenced? Link? I'd need to see these statements in context to determine if I agree.

mkrupar

Dtto Mel. If it was flat out "more than 1 registry is gift grabby" then no, that's not the case. IMO having more than one registries isn't really gift grabby. I think it gives a nice option if say there are no BB&Bs in someone's town, but they do have a target. Also there's different price points to consider.

lauralaur

I think it depends, I've seen people create four jam-packed registries before and I definitely thought that was too much. But registering at multiple stores that have different price points and different merchandise isn't a bad thing. We had two registries, but I think after two we were pretty well out of things we wanted/needed.

trixie549

IMO, anything more than 3 is a bit excessive. I can see doing different registries for different types of items (i.e. kitchen stuff at Williams-Sonoma and bed/bath stuff at BBB) and also at different price points (Target vs. Macy's). Plus maybe a "fun" registry like REI - but really, why would you need more than that?

strlzfan11

I said in the other thread that I think more than 2-3 registries looks gift grabby if you've got a small guest list.  If you've got a huge guest list, then I think the amount of registries you have (or items you've registered for) needs to reflect that.  That being said, I don't think you should register for tons of things you don't want or need just because you have a big guest list.  They should be things that you actually need or want.  My sister ended up with 4, which was ridiculous IMO.

The Mel and Todd Show

I don't equate the number of registries you have with greed, as long as they're reasonable registries. I do equate registering for things like skis or your honeymoon with greed. So there's that.

Loopyseven

I can see a lower price point, a higher price point and maybe  a specialty store of some sort being understandable.. but more than 3 stores, or even 3 if two of them were essentially the same kind of store, would make me side eye a little.

sparent2010

I would just use Amazon since you can add anything from any store to your registry, but for the non-internet savy I have one in-store registry. I don't care how many registries people have honestly. If it feels like to many to you then it is. 

cebrady89

Eh, I still don't see what makes it greedy, unless you register for your honeymoon or something like that.

We're doing 4 and I've never seen a problem with that. We've got a large guest list, and are registering for items at varying price points, and for things we actually need. We opted against one of the online registries that let you pull from different stores because I didn't want anyone to have to shop online. Plus, the selection at each store is different, so four registries it is

SparrowSong

Three is ok imo, provided there is some variety. Like one is a local store, one is a large national chain, and one is an outdoor/garden type store or something. 

But if they have five registries for no real reason, I would be lifting an eyebrow. 

Ballet513

It was my post originally thar was linked to. We ended up registering at Macy's and Kohls only at this point. We may add Williams Sonoma OR Crate and Barrel as the shower gets closer but at this point I'm out of things I "need" so probably not. We have 213 people on our guest list.

artbyallie

I kind of agree with some posters in that thread that the third registry, if you have one, should be something different than a typical wedding registry, like for specialty stuff (camping, if you're into that) or an online/combined registry like Amazon or MyRegistry.com. It's less that it looks greedy (though it does) to have more, to me it's more that it's too many different locations for people to go looking.

Simply Fated

When your list of places you registered at becomes so extensive that it looks like you spent a significant amount of time going from store to store registering for all different stuff.... It just stops being about the wedding and starts being about the stuff you want. As a guest, it gets stupid checking all the registries, comparing things to prices... Anything can start to look gift grabby when it starts to look like you've concentrated a significant amount of time on gifts. If you can't narrow it down to at least 3 places, then I don't know what to say that won't offend you, if you're easily offended. Pick a couple of stores and go with it. You don't need to register at all. Registries are there to give guests an idea of of you want. Basically, you want a lot of stuff at a lot of places... which to me looks gift grabby. It sucks you didn't like the replies in that thread and felt the need to come here for validation. Not everyone is going to agree with me, but that's okay.

GeauxTigers17

We invited 550 to our wedding and still only had 3 registries (BBB, pottery barn and a local specialty shop) so I don't think even large weddings "need" more than 3 registries.

mica178

5 registries would be excessive.  2-3 registries is fine.

cebrady89

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_multiple-registries-greedy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f55350a9-e71d-4b2d-94cc-42170d7589cdPost:98d3579b-97c9-4b3d-9007-623bb798a1cf">Re: Are multiple registries greedy?</a>:
[QUOTE]When your list of places you registered at becomes so extensive that it looks like you spent a significant amount of time going from store to store registering for all different stuff.... It just stops being about the wedding and starts being about the stuff you want. As a guest, it gets stupid checking all the registries, comparing things to prices... Anything can start to look gift grabby when it starts to look like you've concentrated a significant amount of time on gifts. If you can't narrow it down to at least 3 places, then I don't know what to say that won't offend you, if you're easily offended. Pick a couple of stores and go with it. You don't need to register at all. <strong>Registries are there to give guests an idea of of you want.</strong> Basically, you want a lot of stuff at a lot of places... which to me looks gift grabby. <strong>It sucks you didn't like the replies in that thread and felt the need to come here for <em>validation</em>. Not everyone is going to agree with me, but that's okay.</strong>
Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>Precisely why I think it makes sense to register for what you want, rather than choose one store and add things that you don't really care to receive. I'm aware that no one needs to buy me a gift, nor do I expect gifts - but if I want to give people ideas of what we'd like, it will probably take more than one store. </div><div>
</div><div>Not at all what I was doing. The original thread wasn't even something I posted. I wasn't looking for validation of anything - I was curious about what others thought on this, because I'd never considered that people might see 3+ registries as greedy. I still don't think anyone's offered a reason as to <em>why</em> it's greedy (I know you said that having 3-4 registries looks like someone spent too much time on it - how would you know how much time it took someone to register?) - which is really all I was curious about. I wasn't asking for personal advice, really, I simply wondered what others thought about this topic.</div>

Simply Fated

"Precisely why I think it makes sense to register for what you want, rather than choose one store and add things that you don't really care to receive. I'm aware that no one needs to buy me a gift, nor do I expect gifts - but if I want to give people ideas of what we'd like, it will probably take more than one store." FFS I said pick a couple. Not 1. I'm in the 2 MAYBE 3 camp. You have 4, which I think is too many. You want to register for what you want, but you can also use any cash gifts towards the third or fourth store. Or seventh store. I get it, I understand what you're going through. You can't decide which stores you want and there is a lot if stuff you want and they're all from different stores. But it just comes across as being scanner-happy. "Not at all what I was doing. The original thread wasn't even something I posted." I'm aware. I posted in that thread. But you started this thread because you registered at 4 places and you want to argue the point that it's okay because it's what you want. You want to be validated for your choices. I told you why I think it looks gift grabby. I gave several reasons other than time spent. And what do you mean i dont know how much time was spent? Tell me, then, how much time? Did you spend days comparing models, prices and return policies? Or did you spend minutes jumping from site to site clicking on things? Personally, I prefer the first method where the person took their time. Because then the person was able to edit themselves down and decide which products they want most and from which stores.

Cortney1982

I have 2 registries.  Amazon didn't have what Crate & Barrel has and vise versa.  Their isn't much on either, and mostly everything is under $25.  They are there so if somebody would like to buy a gift, they know what we like and could use, so they don't waste time or money on something else.

I would only think greed if I saw 2 registries and both had similar items on them, espcially something expensive like a stand mixer. 

chelseamb11

We have 3 registries.  Target for more of the home type stuff, fleet farm for the camping gear/outdoors stuff, and home depot for the tools and whatnot.  Home Depot originally wasn't going to be on the list, however we couldn't find the tools we wanted at Fleet Farm and also, Home Depot is the only one of the three that is also in the town we are getting married in. The other two are 20 miles away.

Ali092011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_multiple-registries-greedy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f55350a9-e71d-4b2d-94cc-42170d7589cdPost:577cba8e-2227-4e5e-baf6-0d0149af890e">Re: Are multiple registries greedy?</a>:
[QUOTE]5 registries would be excessive.  2-3 registries is fine.
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]

I agree with this. However, I also think it depends on the couple. If I know you're starting from scratch, I will feel more charitable about your three registries with 100 items on each. But if you "have everything you need," yet you're registering for 100+ items on three registries because you want to upgrade everything from your picture frames to your doormat, I might raise an eyebrow. I don't remember who and I don't want to call anyone out, but somewhere on some board I saw someone mention that they registered at FIVE places, one being a honeymoon registry. No matter what your living situation is or how big your guest list, I side-eye that.

hbatchel2

I had 3 registires only because we decided after originally registering that we wanted Fiestaware plates. BBB didn't have the serving pieces we wanted and was usually out of stock of one of the colors we needed, so we added a Kohls registry.We also had a Target registry.

If its a situation like that where one registry is just really small, I wouldn't think anything of there being 3. But if I would have had hundreds of things on all 3 registries, I would have side-eyed myself.

Kate61487

We had three; I started with Pampered Chef for kitchen gadgets, baking stones, etc.  Then we decided on Kohls for the pots/pans, toaster, those sorts of things.  When it came time to pick towels I just really didn't like any of Kohls, and we already had stuff we liked from BB&B, so we registered there for sheets and towels.

I also *sort of* registered for Corelle - basically I picked a pattern I liked and told my mom;  she passed the info on to my grandmother and aunts.  I could have just held off on the Correlle entirely until after the wedding, and used cash gifts to buy it, but my mom knew I wanted it and was looking at it, so that sort of got away from me. 

I would have felt really gift grabby to put that fourth link on my website; I already felt like the three was too much.  I guess it's because it's already a little AWish to say "you can buy me presents here" without adding "AND here, AND here, AND here...."  I certainly tried to make sure that the three registries were pretty different as far as the items we chose, and I noted with each link the sorts of things we'd picked at that store so someone who wanted to buy us pots knew where to look.

shipsinthenight

2-3 registries is not a big deal. 4-5 may be a little greedy, depending on how many guests you have. We are planning on BB&B, or as I like to say B cubed, Target, and Amazon for those things we fall in love with at random stores.

jbeeks10

I think 3 is pretty standard where I am from Massachusetts.  I have never had a problem with more, so long as there is variety.

I don't think its a matter of the number of stores so much as the number and prices of items.

Starqueg

Not every place sells everything you might want.  I see nothing wrong with having more than one, my fiance and I will probably have two.