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Oh guest list...

minko1986minko1986 member
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Hi ladies---

I think I'm in a little sticky situation. One of my BMs invited one of our mutual friends to my wedding. Yes, SHE invited him to MY wedding. When I learend about it, I didn't say anything because she also told me that he couldn't make to the wedding anyway. Plus, back then he was in overseas, so I wasn't planning on sending him an invitation. (The only overseas people on the guest list are my family.) Now I learend that he's coming to the States in couple weeks. If he ever shows up at the wedding, we don't have a seat for him. I mean, the guest list is already at max and we literally don't have a seat for him unless someone declines. I'll probably see him once he's in the states. Should I just send him an invitation hoping someone will decline?
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    No, SHE needs to call him and clean up this mess.
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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    [QUOTE]Hi ladies--- I think I'm in a little sticky situation. One of my BMs invited one of our mutual friends to my wedding. Yes, SHE invited him to MY wedding. When I learend about it, I didn't say anything because she also told me that he couldn't make to the wedding anyway. Plus, back then he was in overseas, so I wasn't planning on sending him an invitation. (The only overseas people on the guest list are my family.) Now I learend that he's coming to the States in couple weeks. If he ever shows up at the wedding, we don't have a seat for him. I mean, the guest list is already at max and we literally don't have a seat for him unless someone declines. I'll probably see him once he's in the states. <strong>Should I just send him an invitation hoping someone will decline?</strong>
    Posted by minko1986[/QUOTE]
    I wouldn't because if, for what ever reason, you have 100% yesses, then you're screwed.
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  • LDubHawksFanLDubHawksFan member
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    How did she invite him?!  Is she getting a +1 and he will be her date?  If not, she should call him to clean up the mess.

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  • Summer2011BrideSummer2011Bride member
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    I would not invite him. Now just to clarify: did you give your friend a plus one and she invited him as her plus one? Or did she take it upon herself to just extend an invitation to him?

    If it's the latter, then I would make her clean up the mess. I'd make her call him and explain that she's sorry, but she took it upon herself to extend an invitation and your venue is at capacity.


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  • minko1986minko1986 member
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    edited February 2013
    Ok. That's what I thought, but wanted to make sure I wasn't going into this bridezilla mode..
    How did she invite him? "You know ____ is getting married, and I'm her BM. You're coming to the wedding, right? You have to come!" And no, she didn't get a +1. Although she assumed she would get a +1, so she invited her sister and FI. Which was really a +2, but I just let it go since her FI would've been invited anyway, and I'm close to her sister.
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  • kmmssgkmmssg mod
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    Talk to her and let her know that SHE needs to clean this mess up.  Addie saves me SO much typing with her wise, sage advice.
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  • lauralaurlauralaur member
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    Good gravy! You said she has a fi right? That means a wedding is being or will be planned? Maybe see how she likes other people tacking on to her guest list. Seriously.

    Have her call the friend and explain her error. I can't believe she's already done this to you once before!
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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    [QUOTE]Ok. That's what I thought, but wanted to make sure I wasn't going into this bridezilla mode.. How did she invite him? "You know ____ is getting married, and I'm her BM. You're coming to the wedding, right? You have to come!" And no, she didn't get a +1. Although she assumed she would get a +1, so she invited her sister and FI. Which was really a +2, but I just let it go since her FI would've been invited anyway, and I'm close to her sister.
    Posted by minko1986[/QUOTE]
    Wow, she's just going around letting everyone in, isn't she?
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