Shower & Wedding Invitations

AlexaNP

So, my MOH and I were talking last evening and she mentioned that she was planning on mailing the shower invitations the week of October 8th.  That is the same time I was planning on mailing the wedding invitations.

Info:
The wedding is December 1, so October 8 would be approx 8 weeks in advance (RSVP date is Nov 16)
The bridal shower is November 10, so October 8 would be about 1 month in advance.

Does it matter if both invitations arrive at the same time (About 450 wedding invitees, and 100 shower invitees if that matters), or which invitations SHOULD arrive first?  And, if applicable, would it matter how much time was between receiving the invitations?

achiduck

As long as everyone invited to the shower is invited to the wedding it doesn't really matter what order the invitations arrive in.

s-aries8990

Did you send out STD?  If you did, there should be no problem. If a lg # of people who are invited to the shower & wedding didn't get STD's then I would try and get to the post office a few days before her!

itzMS

Since your shower and wedding are all during the magical "holiday months" I see no problem in what you're doing. I've had years where I have a holiday party and/or wedding every weekend in November and December so advanced notice is welcome.

AlexaNP

Everyone invited to the shower is also invited to the wedding.

Also, we did not send out official STD's, except for telling OOT guests via email or phone call when the wedding date was so they could make travel plans.

[Deleted User]

I'm glad you asked this question because I'm doing the same thing! My shower will be October 20th, and my wedding invites are only going out the 10th of October, so the shower ones had to be first.

JoanE2012

My shower invitations went out first, but everyone invited to the shower was (and knew) they'd be invited to the wedding.  We also had the shower 2 months before the wedding, so invites went out one month before that.  No way we were mailing out the wedding invitations 3+ months in advance!

On a side note, 450 wedding guests....wowzer!

DramaGeek

Two of my showers were actually in October, and we got married Dec 14, so people actually attended the shower prior to receiving their wedding invite.  It's totally fine!