Okay, get a grip for a second here and think about it.
Lack of validation =/= snarky and rude. Holy hell in a handbasket people. We don't validate bad ideas. We are blunt and to the point. We will tell you when you are being rude and when you are breaking etiquette. This is the ETIQUETTE board.
Your situation is not different (except for the girl who's church burnt down the week of her wedding. She gets a pass) than the millions of other girls here who think they are special.
If you don't want opinions and the correct etiquette responses, then why the hell are you posting questions on an etiquette board?
We don't know you when you post. All we know is what you tell us, so that's how we're responding and what we're resonding to. If you want to give us more information, we will happily respond to that as well.
We are here because we want you to not embarass yourself and to still have friends when your "special all about me day" is over and done with. Yes, it's your wedding. Ultimately you can do what you want, but internet strangers are here to tell you how to save face and how to do it the right way. Maybe you should listen instead of freaking out and telling us that we're so rude because you didn't get the answer that you were hoping for.
Carry on and good luck planning your wedding.