When to do with non responders

jquesto

I am sure there is a post somewhere, but can't find it...

How do I contact people who haven't responded by the RSVP deadline?

Is is it rude to casually FaceBook people now? (RSVP deadline 8/18)

What do I say?

Venue needs to know by 8/25 for our 9/18 wedding since we have 260+ people coming. We pay per head, and there's no way I am paying for maybes/lazy/forgetful people who can't RSVP on time!

Thanks knotties

As of today, 291 invited, 160 yes, 19 declines, 111 can't figure out how to put a card in the mail.

katiewhompus

If people have until the 18th then you need to give them until the deadline. Normally I would say give it until a week after the deadline to contact people. Many people can't give a solid answer until as late as possible with work, so they are waiting as long as they can.

It's only rude if they don't make it by the deadline, not laziness if it gets there in time. If the deadline hits you need to start calling people to see if they will be there or not.

balasj

It is appropriate to contact them shortly after the deadline passes.  You can certainly enlist the mothers and/or some bridesmaids for this task as well.  Or fiance too for his side.  Just let them know you have to respond to your venue - people should know that...  I would suggest a phone call to most rather than an online method and that would give you your answer more immediately.  But, you know your friends/family best and if they respond better to an email vs the phone in this day in age I guess thats OK. 

PS - I have heard that everyone waits until the last minute to reply - so annoying!

Julz629

I wouldn't contact anyone before the RSVP deadline.  The deadline is there for a reason and you can't just assume they are non responders when they still have over a week to respond.

Also, I've heard of people enlisting the help of their bridesmaids to call non responders, but I would personally never do that.  Your bridesmaids probably don't know all your guests so it seems weird to have them making the calls.  If you divide them up between you, FI, and both sets of parents, you should be able to contact everyone pretty easily.

Julz629

Also, regarding HOW, I think any form of contact is fine -- whatever is easiest and will get you the quickest response.  Facebook, email, phone calls, whatever...