Gift troubles

jwhams2012

There's a little over 3 months until our wedding date and the fiance and I have already sent our invites. Included in the invites is information on our honeymoon registry. We have requested monetary gifts only from those invited and attending the wedding. We are honeymooning at Disney World and their registry site is very easy to get to and give monetary gifts towards the trip. We included step by step instructions as well.

This morning my future father-in-law sent me an e-mail saying he and his wife would like to purchase us a clock for a wedding present. There is sentimental value to him buying this for us and I have no intention to turn it away or reject it. But, I am afraid that others do not understand that we only ask for monetary gifts. My fiance and I are staying with my parents until we are both out of school and on our feet, so we do not need the usual list of gifts like others.

Is there a way to remind everyone of our request without sounding like a nag or sounding rude?

notquiteblushing

I'm dead.  Best post ever.  I've missed the knot!

MrsBeagle

This is fantastic.
Enjoy the tacky crap you're going to get. If I got a demand for monetary gifts in an invitation, you bet I would buy them the ugliest personalized item ever.

malibu5880

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gift-troubles?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:f6bcbb12-249a-4292-ab0d-7c57ae42a2d0Post:10f66978-82d4-4440-9c38-395e08eb457b">Gift troubles</a>:
[QUOTE]There's a little over 3 months until our wedding date and the fiance and I have already sent our invites. Included in the invites is information on our honeymoon registry. We have requested monetary gifts only from those invited and attending the wedding. We are honeymooning at Disney World and their registry site is very easy to get to and give monetary gifts towards the trip. We included step by step instructions as well. This morning my future father-in-law sent me an e-mail saying he and his wife would like to purchase us a clock for a wedding present. There is sentimental value to him buying this for us and I have no intention to turn it away or reject it. But, I am afraid that others do not understand that we only ask for monetary gifts. My fiance and I are staying with my parents until we are both out of school and on our feet, so we do not need the usual list of gifts like others. Is there a way to remind everyone of our request without sounding like a nag or sounding rude?
Posted by jwhams2012[/QUOTE]

LOL to this whole post.

OP, you and your FI are both nuts. Rude and nuts. Hilarious. Poor wittle baby OP had to have her big bad FI come and tell everyone how rude they are, when all anyone's doing is pointing out the incredibly awful etiquette rule that was broken by basically demanding money from guests. Both of you need to grow up. By your total lack of etiquette, tact, and maturity, you both sound like you're about 12, stamping your feet when someone isn't going to give you just what you want. And stamp them again when a board full of internet strangers tell you how wrong you are. 
You two are made for each other. Childish and rude. 
Who sends instructions in their invitations on how to give the couple money? I seriously cannot fathom this.

shannon5176

WOW!

Asking for money is rude.  Period.  I don't care your situation. 

If you are too broke to pay for a wedding or a honeymoon then you should have eloped, not asked for money as a gift.  It doesn't matter if you are military or not.  I fail to see how that gives you the right to be rude to your friends and family????

jinx75

I'm a lurker from TB but I couldn't help but reply...OP and FI if you're still around reading these I have a great idea for you.  If you feel that your guests are not honoring your demand for money only gifts than you need to hire some muscle for your reception.  Post said muscle at the entrance to your reception and make sure they have collection plates in hand.  The muscle can then coerce your guests into "giving" the monetary gifts you desire or they will be denied access to your reception and will be thrown out on their hindparts.

Sounds ridiculous doesn't it?  Yeah so does expecting people to get you ANY gift for getting married let alone demanding they only give you cash.  If you cannot afford to pay for the honeymoon yourselves than you don't take a honeymoon.  Oh and if someone gives you something other than cash smile and say thank you.  That's called being polite.