Gift Giving Etiquette for Divorced Parents

fxcwc2009

My son is getting married in a few months.  His mother and I have been divorced for about three years and I recently re-married.  My ex-wife is telling me that "proper etiquette" would be for the two of us to present a gift as his parents.  Is that really true?

Clueless in Texas

AddieCake

Present a gift to whom? The bride and groom? I have never heard of this.

Simply Fated

I have never heard of this one, either. This might be more a tradition or custom thing, not an etiquette thing.

libby2483

Hmmm...I've never heard of this.  When my H and I got married, his dad gave us a gift, and so did his mom and stepdad.  But, his dad and his mom didn't get us any sort of combined gift. You can get your son and future daughter and law whatever gift you choose, and your ex-wife can do the same.  You don't have to give a combined parents' gift.

renegade gaucho

I have never heard of this, and my immediate reaction is that this is a really odd thing for your ex-wife to suggest, especially since you are now married to someone else.  Is she typically a reasonable person?

I would just politely tell her that you and your current wife will handle your own gift-giving.

fxcwc2009

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gift-giving-etiquette-for-divorced-parents?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f753cb7f-1025-434d-b56a-d65639ff20aePost:47991fdc-c671-4bdd-8170-b1604af3a9b6">Re: Gift Giving Etiquette for Divorced Parents</a>:
[QUOTE]Present a gift to whom? The bride and groom? I have never heard of this.
Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes, the gift is for the bride and groom.</div>

[Deleted User]

The BRIDE AND GROOM get the PARENTS a gift. Not combined, obviously, if they are split. But I think THAT is the custom. Not the other way around. I certainly don't expect any sort of gift from our parents.