Two Receptions?

VictoriaSteed

As it stands now, I always wanted to get married around where I grew up but my fiance is from another country. It means a lot to him to get married there so we are compromising.

Getting legally married in the US. Having a followup wedding in his country. It's not a bummer since his friends/family will make it a fun celebration instead of a boring wedding.

But we definitely will have friends/family who can't attend if we have a ceremony in Denmark. Would it be acceptable to have a wedding/reception in Denmark and follow it up with a small, fun lunch that is just a reception? I don't want anyone to feel left out but, getting married three times doesn't sound appealing.

misshart00

In Response to Re:Two Receptions?:[QUOTE]As it stands now, I always wanted to get married around where I grew up but my fiance is from another country. It means a lot to him to get married there so we are compromising.Getting legally married in the US. Having a followup wedding in his country. It's not a bummer since his friends/family will make it a fun celebration instead of a boring wedding. :But we definitely will have friends/family who can't attend if we have a ceremony in Denmark. Would it be acceptable to have a wedding/reception in Denmark and follow it up with a small, fun lunch that is just a reception? I don't want anyone to feel left out but, getting married three times doesn't sound appealing. Posted by VictoriaSteed[/QUOTE]

Just get married in the US and have a party in Denmark. No need for a second ''wedding.'' You can only have one.

And I'm confused why you would need three. Where does the third come in?

EK2013

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[QUOTE]As it stands now, I always wanted to get married around where I grew up but my fiance is from another country. It means a lot to him to get married there so we are compromising. Getting legally married in the US. Having a followup wedding in his country. It's not a bummer since his friends/family will make it a fun celebration instead of a boring wedding. :) But we definitely will have friends/family who can't attend if we have a ceremony in Denmark. Would it be acceptable to have a wedding/reception in Denmark and follow it up with a small, fun lunch that is just a reception? I don't want anyone to feel left out but, getting married three times doesn't sound appealing.
Posted by VictoriaSteed[/QUOTE]

<div>Hi there!</div><div>
</div><div>You are allowed to leave people out of your wedding without feeling like you are leaving them out of your life. Perhaps thinking with this mentality will help you justify not having a third party with a third group of people?</div><div>
</div><div>Your post is a little confusing for me to read. Here is what I think you're saying:</div><div>
</div><div><ul><li>You're getting legally married in the US first.</li><li>You're planning a second celebration that will look like a wedding in Denmark.</li><li>Here's where I get confused: You feel that some people will not be able to join you either for your US wedding or your Denmark party, so you are thinking about throwing a third party (in Denmark?) for those people??</li></ul><div>
</div><div>I personally think that if you want to throw this third party, you should, but that you should seriously consider making it just a regular party, rather than a "sorry you had to miss both my legal wedding and my second celebration" party. A regular party without that baggage seems like it would be less stressful and more fun.</div></div><div>
</div><div>I want to be polite about this: the second celebration in Denmark as a "wedding" is the kind of thing that generally does not go over all that well as far as this board is concerned. Unless there are additional legal/religious benefits to having the Denmark party, it's not really a "wedding." Now, as long as all of the guests are aware that this is in celebration of your <em>marriage</em>, not your legal wedding, at least everyone will be on the same page as to the purpose of the second party. It still might have some of the flavor of "sorry you had to miss my legal wedding."</div>

misssunshine17

EK gave great advice. Have you ceremony & reception in the US, then have a kick ass party to celebrate your marriage in Denmark. This party is not a reception and shouldn't have ceremony, as you'll already be married. No big white dress, wedding party or spotlight dances. 

kerbohl

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[QUOTE]EK gave great advice. Have you ceremony & reception in the US, then have a kick ass party to celebrate your marriage in Denmark. This party is not a reception and shouldn't have ceremony, as you'll already be married. <strong>No big white dress</strong>, wedding party or spotlight dances. 
Posted by misssunshine17[/QUOTE]

But why not wear the white dress from the wedding?  It's already bought, and I'm sure people at the other party want to see the bride in her dress.  I see it as a great excuse to wear it again, and it would probably be nice for the people at the party who are celebrating the wedding.

beardownbchs

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Two Receptions? : But why not wear the white dress from the wedding?  It's already bought, and I'm sure people at the other party want to see <strong>the bride in her dress</strong>.  I see it as a great excuse to wear it again, and it would probably be nice for the people at the party who are celebrating the wedding.
Posted by kerbohl[/QUOTE]

<div>Because she's not a bride. She's a wife. I would feel like a fool wearing a wedding dress after I was married. </div>