Can friends & bridesmaids host the Shower?

Chloe0427

mkrupar

Yes

AroundTheBlock

Yes they can. In fact, that is who should host a shower for a bride. A shower is like a fundraiser -- the guests are required to bring contributions to your future household. Hosting something like that for yourself comes across as pretty self-serving. Even hosting something like that for your own daughter may seem self-serving since even in the twentieth century parents are supposed to support their children in need -- not arrange for other people to provide that support.

Assuming that it's not the shower presents that you want, but just a chance to celebrate with your female friends and relatives, then you can host a "bridal tea". Offering people hospitality is always a generous and gracious thing to do, so there is certainly no social rule against having a party any time you want. Changing the name from "shower" to "tea" removes the implication that you expect your guests to bring you stuff.

Kristin789

Yes.
The shower is hosted by the MOH, assisted by the BMs.
The shower is their gift to the bride.

It's only been very recently that the MOH and BMs *also* give gifts to the bride at the shower.