I'm married to my wonderful husband for 10 years. His sister is getting married. We are both very happy and excited for her. BUT we were just informed that I will be one of her bridesmaids, but my husband, her only brother is not going to be part of the wedding party, instead he will be doing a reading.
This really hurts my feelings for the following reasons.
1. My husband and his sister are close. We live close and they talk all the time. He's given her emotional and financial support over many of her issues. I can't believe they left him out as a groomsman.
2. My husband's sister included the fiance's sister as a bridesmaid, whom they have never met.
3. The fiance knows my husband and I well. Even though not close friends, he did spend thanksgiving and christmas with us and visited our house many times.
4. He's her only brother, so there isn't the issue of "too many brothers, and can't all be groomsman".
I'm just really upset that my husband is not included in this. The finance picked his own brother and 2 friends as the groomsman. The bride picked her friend, the groom's sister whom she has never met, and me (her sister-in-law).
Should I say something to my sister in law (husband's sister) and ask her why my husband is not included? My husband is a little upset, but not as much as me. I just don't understand the logic behind all of this.
Please advise. What should I do? I'm tempted to say no to her as one of her bridesmaids. Thank you.