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Younger Guests - How to invite?

What is the protocol for inviting younger guests?  A lot of my fiances cousins are colleged-age and we're not sure how to invite them.  Do you send them a separate invitation or can you put them on the same invitation as their parents? 

What about the ones who will still be in high school when the invitations go out, but will be freshman in college at the time of the wedding?

Also, what do we do about plus ones for them?  In my head they're kids, but I know in reality they're young adults and are possibly in committed, lasting relationships. (My fiance and I met my first week at college, so I really do get it.)  He's not very close to them, though, at least not the way I am with my family, and we don't know if they are seeing anyone.  Should we ask the aunts/uncles? (They can most definitely have plus ones if they are in relationships and are invited separately.)

Really, we're just confused about whether or not they are considered kids or adults in the world of ettiquette. I was only invited to one wedding while still in school (a friend of mine who's mother happens to be friends with my mother so it's kind of a weird situation) and I was included on my mother's invitation which was totally fine with me. If that isn't standard practice, though, it would be good to know.

Thank you!

Re: Younger Guests - How to invite?

  • Anyone over 18 should technically get their own invitation. If they're living at home, that means more than one invitation may go to one house (we had this circumstance a few times). If they're under 18/in HS, they can be included on their parents' invitation.

    As far as guests, if anyone is in a relationship, they should be invited with their SO, so if you aren't sure, i would call up and ask them. However, if they are truly single (no matter their age), you don't HAVE to give them a plus one unless you want to.


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  • I doubt you can ever go wrong by treating an older high school or college student like as an adult.  
  • For the ones I had separate addresses for, I sent a separate invite.  The rest, I attempted to get an address (through facebook, phone, email- whatever method of contact I had!) and if no one responded, I put them on the invite for their parents.  FI has a huge family and most of the trouble came from his side.

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  • What CRFB said.
  • Hpw  far ahead of time are you sending the invites if the guest will still be in high school, but in college by the day of the wedding?
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