Plus Ones!

lcatterton

What about little old ladies? I have multiple guests on my list that are elderly single ladies that (I KNOW) won't be bringing a date, however I am extending plus ones to the single younger people on my list. If I offer these ladies a plus one, they are likely to bring other little old ladies instead of a date, which the plus one was intended to be for. Not that that would be a huge issue, but if I can cut back on the number of people attending the wedding, that would be ideal.

What would you do?

heroeswearbrown

I extended plus ones based on the likelihood that someone else would be there that that person would know. I offered plus ones to most of the guests our age just because it's hard to know which of our friends will show up.

To the family and other older folks, I leaned on the side of no +1s based on the fact that most if not all of them were family and they could find SOMEONE else at the wedding they know/like t hang out with and talk to.

Maggie0829

If you extend a plus one then really have no say as to who they would bring whether it be their little old lady friend or a hot, sexy young stud.

Honestly, if I were you I would extend plus one's to the older demographic because they may feel more comfortable going to places with a friend or relative rather then alone.  Also, depending on their physical state, they may need some assistance to get to and from your wedding.

heroeswearbrown

Yeah, I guess it would be worth mentioning that my oldest guests will be mid-70s and fully capable of getting places on her own. Plus her daughters and son will be invited too. So I guess it depends on what you mean when you say little old lady.

Maggie0829

Another question would be just how many of these mid-70 guests are there?  If there are only 2 or 3 give them a guest if there are 20 then maybe not.

For me, I liked to give everyone the option of bringing a guest because even though they may know one or two or more people at the wedding it is still nice to have the option to bring a really good friend so that you are either more comfortable or have a nice group to have fun with.

I know that plus one's aren't required but I feel like if you have it in your budget and you aren't having to give out 100 plus one's then why not do it?

KSerafin17

We have a few ederly women on our guest list too and I know that even if extended an invite, they would not bring a guest so we are leaving the plus 1 off those. We do however have a guest whos husband has passed away a couple years ago, we are extending a plus one to her because she likes to bring one of her girlfriends with her to weddings so things are so sad for her. She likes to have someone to share the event with because her late husband can't be there. I think you may need to analyze each guest personally to see if they would want a plus 1 or not.

lcatterton

There are 8 ladies that I am debating on, ranging from 65 and able to participate in sports, to 90 and can still walk around but very slowly. They are mainly family, and therefore will know a majority of the people there.

arendiva

I'm giving everyone a plus one. The younger people will likely bring dates and the little old ladies will likely bring either not invited family members or friends. I'm fine fine either way. Especially since in the case of my wedding those little old ladies are going to have to travel between 1 and 2 hours to get to my wedding and I'd prefer if they didn't have to travel that far alone. 4 hours in a car by yourself is lonely and boring.

thurmanpowell

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[QUOTE]If you extend a plus one then really have no say as to who they would bring whether it be their little old lady friend or a hot, sexy young stud. Honestly, if I were you I would extend plus one's to the older demographic because they may feel more comfortable going to places with a friend or relative rather then alone.  <strong>Also, depending on their physical state, they may need some assistance to get to and from your wedding.
Posted by Maggie0829[/QUOTE]</strong>


This. I see OP that this isn't your situation, but incase there are any lurkers...

The only true plue one we gave (single people did not automatically get plus ones) was to my 80-90 year old great Aunt who lives 8 hours way. She probably could drive that far (I hope to be in her shape when I'm old!) but it seemed good form to let her bring some one with her.