Never too late for thank you cards?

amazon72

Hi. We were married one year ago.    It was a rough time as my dad fell ill right before the wedding, was not able to attend, and died 10 days after.  I had hard time thinking about the wedding afterwards since I was so depressed he could not be a part of my day, not to mention then mourning his death.    To this day I have not looked at my wedding photos or watched my wedding video.

Because I wanted the wedding out of sight and out of mind I did not do the thank you cards right away as originally planned.  And then it was just something I would do 'this weekend", "my next day off" so on and so forth.

My friends tell me that if my friends and family truely love us, they will understand that I had gone through alot during my wedding, and would not take it personal, nor would they care, that they did not receive a thank you card.

Now, a year later, the guilt is eating me up that I did not send the cards.  Is sending them now, so late, insulting?  Has so much time passed that no one cares now?  Or should I still send them?

I really need opinions on this, as I am at a complete loss as to what to do.

achiduck

I'm sorry about your Dad. I think with the circumstances people will be a bit more forgiving about the timing. I would write them and get them out ASAP. Have your husband help you to speed up the process.

Meegles4

Send them now.

Loopyseven

It's never too late to send a thank you card. And kudos to you for still wanting to do them. Ditto the PP who said to get your hubby to help.

Loopyseven

It's never too late to send a thank you card. And kudos to you for still wanting to do them. Ditto the PP who said to get your hubby to help.

Calypso1977

better late than never.

im sorry for your loss, but a year has passed, giving you the chance to go through a full annual cycle without your dad (that was a big milestone for me, when my dad passed, getting through each holiday, birthday, etc. once).  id send them out now as it really is the proper thing to do.

brilibby4

I agree with those who said you and your husband should send them asap.

[Deleted User]

I would also send them out as soon as you can and I'm sure your family will be understanding.

I'm sorry for your loss

melanieky

I agree with PP's, better late than never. I think sending them out now would be fine. I am sure your family and friends will understand.

EK2013

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[QUOTE]Hi. We were married one year ago.    It was a rough time as my dad fell ill right before the wedding, was not able to attend, and died 10 days after.  I had hard time thinking about the wedding afterwards since I was so depressed he could not be a part of my day, not to mention then mourning his death.    To this day I have not looked at my wedding photos or watched my wedding video. Because I wanted the wedding out of sight and out of mind I did not do the thank you cards right away as originally planned.  And then it was just something I would do 'this weekend", "my next day off" so on and so forth. My friends tell me that if my friends and family truely love us, they will understand that I had gone through alot during my wedding, and would not take it personal, nor would they care, that they did not receive a thank you card. Now, a year later, the guilt is eating me up that I did not send the cards.  Is sending them now, so late, insulting?  Has so much time passed that no one cares now?  Or should I still send them? I really need opinions on this, as I am at a complete loss as to what to do.
Posted by amazon72[/QUOTE]

Send them now! A "thanks" is never insulting, and your nearest and dearest know that you went through a lot.<div>
</div><div>And if looking at the whole list/whole pile is overwhelming, think about 5 or 8 or 10 at time.</div>

banana468

Ditto PPs.   Send them now.

Those who love you know what you've been through and will forgive a tardy TY note.   Not sending a TY note really isn't forgivable.

Ali092011

I agree with PPs. And JIC you were wondering, it's best to write the thank you note the same way you would if the wedding was two weeks ago. Don't apologize for not sending them sooner or offer explanations.

I'm sorry for your loss. It must have been an incredibly difficult time.