rehearsal dinner etiquette

TheSlowskys

We are having a Catholic ceremony and are choosing two readers. I know there is no reason for them to go to the actual rehearsal, but should they been invited to the rehearsal dinner night before the wedding? They both live about 35 minutes from the venue.

ootmother2

Yes  They should attend the rehearsal and be invited to the RD

Katelyn89

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[QUOTE]We are having a Catholic ceremony and are choosing two readers. I know there is no reason for them to go to the actual rehearsal, but should they been invited to the rehearsal dinner night before the wedding? They both live about 35 minutes from the venue.
Posted by TheSlowskys[/QUOTE]



I think it would be nice of you to extend an invitation for both the rehearsal and dinner. The also need to know when they are doing the reading. I know if I was a reader in a wedding, it would cause me anxiety not knowing when I am supposed to go up.

tgirl06

Every Catholic rehearsal I've ever been to (and there's been quite a few) the readers were there. The priest often wants to tell them when to come up, bow, etc. and they generally have them practice a line or two to make sure that they are comfortable with the mic and speak loudly and clearly enough. Obviously this might not be the case in every parish, but I'd double check. And I'd invite them to the rehearsal dinner either way.

ingramnusz

You may want to check with your church--our readers are required to be at the rehearsals so that they can practice with the microphones and all that. 

aurianna

Our readers (and their SOs) came to both our rehearsal and dinner. Honestly in some aspects, I think the readers need more rehearsing than a lot of the wedding party that might just walk in a straight line and then stand for a while.
We also invited our ushers and those presenting the Gifts to the RD as well

TheSlowskys

Oops didnt realize they had to go to the rehearsal. Thanks for letting me know! I've never been in a Catholic wedding so mine will be the first I see behind the scenes.

TheSlowskys

Eeek. I hadn't thought of who is presenting gifts. Might have to ask some of the wp dates to do that since we are on a budget for the rd that sounds bad but its still aunts/uncles in laws. Edit: nm the reason I hadn't thought of this is bc we aren't having a mass. Duh.

aurianna

I really don't know if the presenters are really required to come or not. But they're his god-parents and were coming in from out of town that day anyway, so why not? (Edit: And hubby's parents were hosting the dinner and wanted them there, so that was another big reason...)

bonge

Even without a mass i do not see why you wouldn't think readers need to be there. They are part of the ceremony. I hope my reader will read some lines up there so that she is not so nervous the next day. 

Avion22

Why on earth would you think the readers shouldn't need to rehearse for the ceremony?  

Anyone who attends the rehearsal, and their SO, should be invited to whatever kind of rehearsal dinner you have.   Casual RDs are becoming more popular so people aren't overloaded with a lot of formal events in one weekend -- pizza and barbecue are just fine if you're worried about budget.

TheSlowskys

In Response to Re:rehearsal dinner etiquette:[QUOTE]Why on earth would you think the readers shouldn't need to rehearse for the ceremony? nbsp;Anyone who attends the rehearsal, and their SO, should be invited to whatever kind of rehearsal dinner you have. nbsp; Casual RDs are becoming more popular so people aren't overloaded with a lot of formal events in one weekend pizza and barbecue are just fine if you're worried about budget. Posted by Avion22[/QUOTE]

Because obviously I'm an idiot. And I was kindly corrected by the previous posters.

MyNameIsNot

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[QUOTE]Eeek. I hadn't thought of who is presenting gifts. Might have to ask some of the wp dates to do that since we are on a budget for the rd that sounds bad but its still aunts/uncles in laws. Edit: nm the reason I hadn't thought of this is bc we aren't having a mass. Duh.
Posted by TheSlowskys[/QUOTE]

<div>If you aren't having a full mass, you don't need anyone to bring up the gifts.  </div>