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So I want to get a gift......

for the Best Man's wife. We will call her "P" She wasn't apart of our wedding party (we only had Best Man and Maid of Honor) but she was a huge help! She kept the 2 guys in check, showered on time, dressed on time, etc, she helped to orchastrate our first look, she stood down in there ceremony area andd greeted people and helped anyone that had a question or anything. Right before we were supposed to head down to the atrium area for the ceremony we realized my Maid of Honor still had the ipod in her hand that had our song to walk down the isle on it, so  "P" ran up to us and go it and took it back down so none of us got seen! Then during pictures and the cocktail hour and all that she made sure we always had a drink in our hands. I really could go on and on and on but she was a life saver, and she did it all because thats just the kinda person she is, and she honesly enjoyed it.

So I was thinking a $50 gift card for somewhere she likes to shop or something, I'd talk to her husband before purchasing.

My question is, is $50 too much?  It iisn't too much in my eyes but I am also trying to thank her, not make her feel uncomfortable. My thoughts are that they spent about 60 on our wedding gift, now don't get me wrong, I AM NOT complaining, because they got us the #1 thing we needed most, however this just makes me wonder if a $50 gift card would make her feel uncomfortable.

My other thing is that P and Best Man were just recently married and  we did help them alot too, with decorating and that type of stuff and she didn't get me anything, again not complaining just a thought that makes me think $50 might make her feel uncomfortable!


Am I over thinking this?! Any tips?! Sorry about the rambling!!!

Re: So I want to get a gift......

  • I think you are overthinking it.  If $50 is what you want and are able to spend on a GC, then $50 is a perfect amount.  I don't think it's too much; especially if you get it for a restaurant, $50 will usually buy a meal for 2.  Enclose it in a heartfelt thank-you card, and you're golden.  
  • I don't think $50 is too much.  Another option would be a gift certificate for a mani/pedi or something.  Include it with a thank you and a note that she deserves to relax after all her help making your day so relaxing and enjoyable and worry free or something along those lines.
  • JoanE2012JoanE2012 member
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    edited October 2012

    $50 isn't a lot if you got a weddding gift of $200 or so.  But for a $60 gift, I can see why you think it would make "P" uncomfortable....it's like she's getting her wedding gift back.  Is there anything you can buy where the value is not as obvious?   Maybe a bottle of wine?  Does she have any hobbies?

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_so-i-want-to-get-a-gift?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:f98938bd-f8da-4e84-a145-1ba7f42784afPost:75c37a3b-f626-4a07-bf04-e74c010bc48d">Re: So I want to get a gift......</a>:
    [QUOTE]$50 isn't a lot if you got a weddding gift of $200 or so.  But for a $60 gift, I can see why you think it would make "P" uncomfortable....it's like she's getting her wedding gift back.  Is there anything you can buy where the value is not as obvious?   Maybe a bottle of wine?  Does she have any hobbies?
    Posted by JoanE2012[/QUOTE]

    thank you. at least i know im not the only one. its like im saying she "earned" her gift back basically. I know there is a local winery she loves so I thought I'd maybe do the gift card there.  i'm not sure on hobbies, she is a health food/local food nut. i thought about doing one of those edible arrangements, but if i get a nicer one, im afraid it would go bad since its only the 2 of them there to eat it (at least thats what happened to us) and if i  do a small one im afraid it would look funny lol
  • Can't you take her out to lunch?
  • Not really they live an hour and a half from us so we don't usually get together as often as we like, plus usually we get together ther person who didn't do the driving buys dinner. at least that is how its always been, When we go up there they take us to dinner and when they come down here we treat them, so lunch would be anything un-usual.

    She posted on FB about finally finding a salon she likes where they live and i found that salons website and it is a salon and spa, so they do manicures, facials etc but they only have gift cards for amounts not services
  • It can't hurt I'll call and explain the situation maybe they have some suggestions!
  • I think the gift card might make her uncomfortable. Can you send her flowers? 
  • i thought about flowers too but there just so expensive and they don't last. id rather she get something that would last a little.
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