not peculiar to weddings

sarabellam

Having trouble getting your RSVPs back? Apparently you are in good company.

http://tinyurl.com/yh9cnrq

laurenclaire1386

I think email is the problem. I don't really use email for work, so I have a tendency to kind of blow off most of my inbox. And god knows what gets put in the spam folder that I don't know about. I'm not condoning not responding to an e-vite, but I just don't think people take them as seriously as an invite through the mail. I also realize sending an invite through the mail for meeting at happy hour or something is also ridiculous.

btrflykate1230

I totally want to put RVOM on my RSVP cards in my wedding invitations now.

laurenclaire1386

Also, I had no idea was RSVP actually stood for til this article. I mean, I know what it IS, just not what the letters stood for.

KentuckyKate

I am OCD about RSVPing too. 

On a related note, this was the Dear Abby column in the Sunday paper:


DEAR ABBY:

I recently canceled a party that has been an annual event. I did it because, of 20 invitations I mailed out, only three individuals bothered to respond by the requested RSVP date. This has happened before, and I am tired of trying to guess how many will attend.

Some years I have been left with too much food, which went to waste. Other years there wasn't enough to go around. Now, some of the invitees are upset. I am getting comments like, "I was going to reply," or "You know we ALWAYS come, so we didn't think we needed to reply." I have also received e-mails bemoaning the fact that I have ruined what was always a fun event.

I refuse to allow them to bully me into throwing the party or feel like an ogre for canceling it. And no, I am not asking for advice. I just needed a place to vent about the cluelessness that seems rampant in our society.

 -- NOT A PSYCHIC IN ST. LOUIS, MO.

DEAR NOT A PSYCHIC:

Because you're not asking for my advice, I won't offer any. However, I'm glad you wrote to vent because that's what I'm here for, and it gives me a chance to remind readers that when they receive an invitation with "RSVP" on it, the RSVP means they should inform their prospective host as soon as possible whether or not they will attend. Not to do so is rude, rude, rude.