Another shower question--multiple showers

Wheels987

All this shower talk has me concerned. I do not want to look like a selfish moron. Help me please

My bridal party & family all live on the east coast and are hosting a shower & bachelorette party there for me. I originally gave them a list of people I wanted included--approximately 25 people (10 in CA, 10 on the east coast, 5 elsewhere in the country).

After giving them the list, a friend from CA offered to host something low key in the area for CA friends.

Am I going to look ridiculous if these people receive two invites? I knew 95% of them wouldn't be able to go to the east coast, and that's fine. I just wanted them to know I was thinking of them. If the east coast invites haven't gone out yet, should I ask my BMs not to send them to CA folks?

Kate61487

if they haven't gone out yet I'd defintiely ask them to leave off the CA guests.  showers are usually more for local guests and REALLY close friends (so, like, BMs are usually invited to all showers along with the moms).  It's not the worst faux pas ever, but if you can stop them and invite them only to a local one I would.

If they have already gone out I might send a note (email, text, etc.) letting them know that you realize it's super far away and just found out you'll actually be having a local event.  I sent a similar note to my BMs to let them know I didn't expect them to attend both of my showers but wanted to give them the option.

Wheels987

I don't know if they've gone out yet--I just tried calling one of my BMs. If they have, I'll do exactly as Kate did. I honestly did not expect anyone out here to host anything, that's why I at least wanted those that I'm close with to know that I'm thinking of them (if that makes sense).

At least I have a game plan for either scenario. Take them off the east coast list or send a note letting them know I just found out about a local event.

Thank you!

Loopyseven

Sounds like you've got a good plan.  I actually sent my cousin an invitation to both of my showers.  One was in Cleveland which was less than 2 hours for her, and the other was in WI which was much further, but her mom was hosting.  I sent her a separate e-mail saying I wanted her to have the option of attending the one in WI if she felt like making a weekend trip home to see her parents, or if the one in Cleveland was more convenient, being so much closer, or neither if it couldn't work out.

avolker1

I had a similar situation. I'm also from the east coast but now live in California. My sister and bridesmaids on the east coast hosted a shower, but I only gave them a list of east coast people to invite. My sister ended up sending invites to my family in California as well just to include them but I quickly contacted them when I found out and told them my fi's aunt will be hosting a shower in California for west coast family and friends. I didn't want to come off as gift grabby in case they sent a gift for my east coast shower then received an invite for a ca shower.