Some of you might remember a couple of my posts a few weeks ago, about FI's brother and his wife: 1. Wife TELLING me that they would be RSVPing for her parents... who we've never met to come to our wedding and 2. A really rude move towards FMIL at Christmas. (
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Well since FI's brother is a groomsmen, we emailed him asking if he could send us his tux/suit measurements this month so we could get all the suit rentals done so it's all ready to go when he gets here (they live in Ontario). I got a reply back from his wife stating "Hey sorry it took so long to get back to you. I really doubt we will be able to make it out there. I wish we could but I don't even think just <BIL name here /> would be able to make it out there." No explanation or anything, which I thought was odd, but maybe they'd rather not say. FI was understandably upset that his brother wouldn't make it. I replied that that was unfortunate, that we would miss them that day and that we would still send them an invite for a keepsake, and to let us know if anything changes.
I'm on the phone with my mother tonight, and I filled her in on this, and she tells me that FI needs to find a new groomsmen. I was like um... no, that's rude, we'll just have uneven sides, we're both ok with that. She flipped out, said that it was a traditional wedding and having 1 groomsmen escort 2 bridesmaids was in bad taste. I told her it was in worse taste to replace FI's brother with someone else, and FI didn't want to replace him. She didn't think this was acceptable at all, and told me I was being rude because apparently her and my dad had the same thing happen and replaced that groomsmen. Well good for you Mom, but just because you used poor etiquette, doesn't mean I have to! She actually ended up hanging up on me when I calmly tried to explain to her why it was rude to replace someone in your bridal party... *sigh*...