does my future sister-in-law have to be a bridesmaid?

diamondx423

Hi everyone-

I'm really struggling with that to do with my fiance's sister and my wedding party.

She is 19 years old, probably will be 21 when the wedding is, and I had planned on making her a bridesmaid up until a few days ago...

Her 18 year old boyfriend proposed to her on NYE, my fiance and I found out through her facebook status, and things have continued to go down hill fast.
 
She "set a date" for a year before my wedding, and has 8 bridesmaids picked out --I'm not one of them, and my fiance (her brother) doesn't even know who two of them are. All of this we found out from her posting it on facebook.

Obviously things are tense right now, and hopefully they'll calm down and not get any worse, but is it necessary for me to put her in the wedding? I'm not planning on having a huge bridal party, 5 or 6 max...

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_future-sister-law-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:fa4e581b-5d43-4081-8c15-2f3c3fddf41ePost:4bff35c4-896a-4042-b9ac-22116ca7792f">Re: does my future sister-in-law have to be a bridesmaid?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: does my future sister-in-law have to be a bridesmaid? : Really? FI has 2 sisters and I didnt ask them. Do you think it hurts them? eek!
Posted by kkchisholm[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm not asking my FI's sisters, FWIW.</div><div>
</div><div>OP - sounds like your FSIL is going to need a lot of good advice. Please, recommend she post here!</div><div>
</div><div>Oh yeah, and the wedding book app is awful. You can fill out all your registry info. You can create a FB guest list! And there's a tag for "honor attendant" under WP. Which, considering there's also an MOH and BM tag, I'm assuming means personal attendant aka ass-wiper.</div>

SarahPLiz

Just a hint, OP.. next time you post the same question on 2 boards, please put XP in the title. You are getting good answers on the Wedding Party board too. I hope you are reading them.

becandjim10

Are you mad that she didnt tell you before posting on facebook? That she may not be asking you and FI to be in party? or that its a year before yours?


No she doesnt have to be invited to be a Bridesmaid.

-Maybe she hasnt asked you yet and didnt post on facebook until she did get a chance 2?