Mini-vent: wanting to boohoo.

polichik

I just got a text from the BM who didn't like the dress. Apparently it arrived and fits fine, but she wanted to remind me again how she really doesn't like the style. I kind of want to cry. F wedding planning. I can see why people elope.

polichik

Yeah, J&K. We're also paying for their hotel rooms for 3 nights.

ETA: I didn't meant that to sound all martyr-y. We've wanted to do this for a while because  most of our WP members are grad students and/or working jobs with crappy pay.

J&K10910

Wow Poli.  That's ridiculous.  I'm sorry she's being a jerk, I hope she realizes it after reading your email.  She's a lucky BM!

laurenclaire1386

You didn't come off as martyr-y. She came off as an ungrateful crotchpheasant.

ExpatPumpkin

That's SO RUDE!  Are you sure she's not really your frenemy?  

She sounds like my SIL - no filter on her mouth.  Just says whatever rude/hurtful thing she's thinking at the moment

kimberlyann1974

Poli...I just wanted to add..I checked out your BIO..you have amazing style. Your friend is a tard =P

DanielleD7782

Wow what a rude friend! I would tell her if she hates the dress so much not to bother wearing it. Who has the nerve to tell a friend they don't like the dress? I had to wear a horrible pink floor length dress last summer. We looked like giant sized bottles of pepto...I grinned and dealt with it. I felt I looked terrible, but at least I had 6 other girls that were dressed the same way. I would have never told my friend that I felt like pepto!

JessAndTrav

I'd be happy to punch her for you.

JessAndTrav

Really though, just don't worry about her and her opinion on the dress. You paid for it, so she really can't complain, and it's not an ugly dress. I would just ignore her as best you can.

HisBelovedOne

i was my best friend's MOH 3 years ago. She had a beach wedding and chose strappy sundresses for me and my sister (the only other BM).  The dress was pretty, but the clingy fabric didn't really "work" for me. But it's what she wanted, so I said nothing and wore a bodyshaper under it. I gave the dress to Goodwill after the wedding. My sister kept hers.

shellydiane820

you should give her a special dress and it should look like this

http://media.photobucket.com/image/ugly%20dress/stephylicous123/uglydress.jpg

bbyckes

That really does suck, Poli.  I just had to lay the law down to a 10-yearold who didn't like the color of her dress that I'm buying.  Yeah, that wasn't a good conversation.

I never realized how insan things could really get.

polichik

Thanks, ladies

Kimberly, that's very sweet of you to say!

and lol shelly! Is that bjorn? Girl's got style...

shellydiane820

it is.

MissIntentional

i'm not your bm or anything but i LOVE your choice of dress. i'd happily wear it.

Andrea_Lea

poli, she's going to have to suck it up FOR A DAY.  Don't let her get to you, the e-mail you sent was you bending over backwards, you shouldn't have to do that - why are YOU accommodating HER on YOUR wedding day?  Nice job, you're too sweet.

Just let it go at this point - you're not going to win her over on the dress but that's ok because if she wants to be a part of your wedding party, she'll put it on and she'll smile and she'll get over herself or she can help herself to a seat as an invited guest, at which point she can wear whatever she wants.

 I sincerely hope she comes to her senses, she's being ridiculous. How hard is it to put on a happy face when you're happy for your friends?  I hope your other BM's remind her of this when she puts on a sourpuss. ♥

mmdpm

Tell her to suck it up.  And I can cut her Achilles tendons and make it look like an accident for you.

thesuninherhead

I have a solution to your BM issues: you can fire your rude BM and ask me instead, so that I get to wear (and keep) that super cute dress! Problem solved! 

polichik

Sun! If you make it here, I'll make it happen.