I was introduced to my fiance and his brother years ago by a mutual friend. They knew each other because her grandparents own a house on the lake about 50 ft from his parent's cabin up north and they grew up each summer hanging out on the lake. Well Her family has been "friends" with my family since I was small, like 3. The kids in their family are about the same ages as the kids in mine so we all had someone our age to play with growing up. All through high school this "friend" was constantly a source of drama between me and my other friends in that group. Well when I started dating my now fiance, we pretty much knew from the start that this was the real deal. I wanted my friend to be happy for us, since SHE introduced us. Instead, she got jealous and told me it was MY FAULT that he and his brother stopped haning out with Her and her sister. AND that my mom was talking crap about her living with her boyfriend. My mom is too nervous to talk crap about anyone, especially members of that family because they tend to overexaggerate and take things the wrong way.
So my dilema is this: My mom thinks I need to invite this girl's mother to our wedding. I dont want to invite her because she makes me nervous and I am not friends with her daughters anymore and neither is my fiance. However, this girl's paternal grandparents are nice people and good neighbors to my fiance's family when they're up north and my future mother in law would like to invite the grandparents to the wedding. I have no problem with them, but I am afrarid that if I invite them and not the mother, it will cause even more drama. My fiance doesnt care either way, so he's no real help in the situation.
And if I dont invite the mother my own mom will never hear the end of it because they are still "friends." (I dont think its much of a friendship if my mom has to be afriad of this woman.)
Any suggestions and opinons will help. This is the ONLY issue I am going to lose sleep over. 