I am already frustrated and have lost interest in this

CapeCodBride28

We have been engaged for almost 4 years. We wanted to wait until I was finished with school to get married. Okay so now we are getting married in December. I am already struggling with so many decisions. 

What kind of reception? Cocktail or Dinner?

To dance or not to dance?

Which photographer?

What to DIY?

How much to spend?

Oh boy....I just wanted a few of these things settled before I went back to school next week.

bbyckes

Is this a question, rant or vent?  You've been engaged for 4 years?  I would be over it too - long, long, long ago. 

danieliza1127

You still have a year?  You still have time to think those things out.  Looking through bios and posts and pictures on the Knot helped me a lot.  I wish I had done more of that before deciding on the type of reception we were going to have.

crfische

Um, yup. Hi. That's called planning a wedding.

And this is not the place for sympathy. We've all done it, are doing it. So get the hell over it and just make some choices or decide to wait.

JK10910

Dude, sounds kind of like you should just elope.

MeaghanandMichael

I also notice whenever you post a question you never quite respond to any of the answers. And, you ask the same question a million different ways. Gap times,  Cape bridge traffic, time of wedding, and other related minutia have been discussed ad nauseum in regards to your wedding and you have recieved MANY helpful responses. Make a friggen choice already.

CapeCodBride28

During our engagement I had always assumed we would spend a ton of money on our wedding, invite everyone etc., but we have since changed our minds. We just want close friends and family with us. I think I was just venting, I am not looking for sympathy.

JK10910

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_am-already-frustrated-lost-interest-this?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:fb2be4ca-373f-4f39-b6e4-57ce482ef8a8Post:bfcc922d-b2ee-44e9-b792-64718ea0a246">Re: I am already frustrated and have lost interest in this</a>:
[QUOTE]During our engagement I had always assumed we would spend a ton of money on our wedding, invite everyone etc., but we have since changed our minds. We just want close friends and family with us. I think I was just venting, I am not looking for sympathy.
Posted by CapeCodBride28[/QUOTE]

So...elope.  I don't really see the problem.  I mean, I get it.  I'm frustrated and tired of planning too.  But if you don't want to spend a ton of money or invite everyone, why not just elope or have a small, low key ceremony and dinner reception?  That would get rid of quite a few of your questions.

CapeCodBride28

I think most of my questions concern what will be best for the guests. I may be trying too hard to please everyone as far as travel times, a gap, open bar, etc. I just want to be considerate. So, yes I do need to get over it and make some decisions.

georgia_bride09

Haven't you posted about ten questions in the last two days? How about just take a deep breath and take it one step at a time. If you don't, you'll be the bride who has pulled all her hair out. Not a good look.

SwedishChick2011

So by the time you get married, you'll have been engaged for five years?  That's insane.  I'd be frustrated too.

JK10910

See, whenever I actually try to help, I get ignored.  I might really stop trying to help completely.  Ever.

Goldlie11

Can you hire someone to help you?