Non-alcholic wedding

LadyArkham

Hey y'all!

So, while neither FH nor I see anything *wrong* with drinking, we're not the type for it, and neither are most of our family and close friends. However, we have some family who enjoy alcohol, and I have some coworkers who very much enjoy it, and might be disappointed to find out that no alcohol is being served.

Is there any polite way of informing people that it's a dry wedding? I assume it'd be something to post on the website, but I don't know how I'd word it - or if it's necessary.

Thanks!

hetshup

Just let them know via word of mouth. We had wine and beer, and there are a few family members that only drink one thing, so we just let them know what the options would be. It's their prerogative to bring stuff. 

Are you providing any fun drinks instead?

TriSaratops10

I agree with hetshup - just spread it via word of mouth. I also think some sort of fun drink  substitute like a hot chocolate bar, italian soda bar, etc would be a lot of fun!

DramaGeek

We did a dry wedding and had so many people (mostly on TK) tell us how much it was going to suck.  We did it for a variety of reasons, but mostly because H and I both have a high number of alcoholics in our family and we didn't feel like feeding into that (see H's cousin's wedding when people got trashed and drove through the yard and into the building of their venue.  I wish I were joking).

I think we just spread it by word of mouth, and when people saw the reception was at the church they generally just assumed I think.  We did do some fun things instead - we had a yummy lemon-peach drink with sorbet in it, and then we did hot apple cider (Christmas wedding).  Plus, we had Santa Claus handing out toys and candy canes - who needs alcohol when you've got Santa?!

squeakyduck

I wouldn't think it'd be necessary to tell people in advance. What are they going to do differently knowing there won't be booze? 

iamjoesgurl

I agree with duckie.  I don't think it's necessary to tell anyone what to expect for alcohol.  I've been to a lot of receptions where there was no alcohol and it was fine.

srkropf

Maybe on the website, otherwise word of mouth

artbyallie

Ditto word-of-mouth. Our venue is dry by law, but we'll be doing milkshakes (June wedding, 50s themed reception). I'm hoping most people won't miss the alcohol since it's also a lunch reception and there will be a lot of kids running around.

wrdgirl

I'm so glad to finally see a positive thread about dry weddings.  I've gotten so much flack for wanting to host a dry wedding on boards that has nothing to do with the choice of it (that is I asked a question related to whether or not to inform guests about a dry wedding and it turned into a "dry vs alcoholic" debate thread).

Yes it is not necessary to tell the guests IMO.  If they find out at the reception and throw a tantrum what they gonna do? It's bad taste as a guest to react like that at someone's party anyways.  And if they are truly your friends and family they shouldn't really care what you serve, as long as they get to witness the marriage!

ohwhynot

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_non-alcholic-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:fb55d312-8f89-4fd8-a493-cf3ce919525bPost:06973163-0f83-4283-8dbf-2bdf9a09269a">Re: Non-alcholic wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]It's YOUR wedding. Tell them, don't tell them, it's YOUR choice. You're the ones paying for it, not the people you're inviting. If they can't understand the concept of a wedding without alcohol, that's their issue. Personally, I don't want anyone drinking at my wedding either. I think it's tacky, and if someone can't handle not drinking alcohol for a few hours, they can leave and get drunk somewhere else. That's less meals my fiance and I have to pay for.
Posted by deanna.m.brown[/QUOTE]
<p> </p><p> </p><p>Oh FFS.  You sound like a real peach.  Thanks for calling the vast majority of the women on here tacky.  </p>