Would this be rude?

bsnowflake13

The FI and I are considering having an 'Adults Only' Ceremony (with the exception of the flower girl and ring bearer) and having an 'everyone' reception. Having babysat for many years I know that most kids have the attention span of a goldfish and I'd prefer to not have them running up and down the aisle and crying while the ceremony is taking place. 

Is it rude to ask parents to do this? I was highly considering hiring a couple babysitters during the ceremony and reception (for the kids that pass out) gratis to the guests of course. 

Stackeye210

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[QUOTE]The FI and I are considering having an 'Adults Only' Ceremony (with the exception of the flower girl and ring bearer) and having an 'everyone' reception. Having babysat for many years I know that most kids have the attention span of a goldfish and I'd prefer to not have them running up and down the aisle and crying while the ceremony is taking place.  Is it rude to ask parents to do this? I was highly considering hiring a couple babysitters during the ceremony and reception (for the kids that pass out) gratis to the guests of course. 
Posted by bsnowflake13[/QUOTE]

If you don't want kids, don't invite them.  Just address the invite to the people invited, do not mention who is NOT invited that is considered bad etiquette.  If someone RSVP's with kids then you simply call and clarify who the invite was for. 

bsnowflake13

Sorry about all the posts!!

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

If I wasn't bringing my child to the ceremony and likely had to get a baby sitter for that, I definitely wouldn't go pick them up and bring them to the reception. I'd just leave my child home with the sitter all night. So, just don't invite children.

stefaniewattie

Just dont invite children altogether.. noone will get a sitter for an hour and then go pick up their child to bring to the reception..so your sitter will be a waste of your money.
I would not be offended if I was invited to an adults only wedding, in fact I normally chose to leave our kiddo at home even if he is welcome.

hboo2011

Ditto PP's. If you don't want children at the ceremony, then don't put their names, or 'and family' on the invite.

It isn't nice to only invite someone (of any age) to the reception. Plus like a PP mentioned, highly doubt anyone will want to go home to pick up their kid to bring to a reception.

Sydney91

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[QUOTE]The FI and I are considering having an 'Adults Only' Ceremony (with the exception of the flower girl and ring bearer) and having an 'everyone' reception. Having babysat for many years I know that most kids have the attention span of a goldfish and I'd prefer to not have them running up and down the aisle and crying while the ceremony is taking place.  Is it rude to ask parents to do this? I was highly considering hiring a couple babysitters during the ceremony and reception (for the kids that pass out) gratis to the guests of course. 
Posted by bsnowflake13[/QUOTE]

<div><div style="font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:10px;background-color:initial;background-image:none;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;font:normal normal normal 11px/14px Arial, sans-serif;">I think its rude to uninvite the kiddies. I love the idea of having a babysitter to allow the kids to come with their parents. It's a nice compromise. I like this plan.</div></div>