RSVPs Children

laur0117

Is it ok to only invite children of family not friends?

How should it be worded on an RSVP card?

MrsGandthebeag

Yes, that's fine although your friends may have hurt feelings.  On the invites, just list the names of people invited.  If one of your friends adds their kid in on the RSVP, you'll just need to call them and explain that only x and y were invited.  

laur0117

In Response to Re:RSVPs Children:[QUOTE]Yes, that's fine although your friends may have hurt feelings. nbsp;On the invites, just list the names of people invited. nbsp;If one of your friends adds their kid in on the RSVP, you'll just need to call them and explain that only x and y were invited. nbsp; Posted by
MrsGandthebeag[/QUOTE]

All of our friends with kids are local so I feel they can arrange childcare. The venue is small and we are paying for this ourselves. I don't want to say no kids period because our own daughter will be there.

Gustafson28

You never say who is not invited. Address the invitation to those you would like to attend (mrs, mr and child).

NOLAbridealmost

If the kids aren't invited there's no need to provide childcare, and you definitely wouldn't put information like that on the RSVP card.  In fact, if you did put info about a babysitter on the invitation, to me it would imply that kids are invited and there would be a kid's room for them with a sitter at the reception. 

It's completely okay to have your own kid (and even kids of family members) and not have your friend's kids.  I wouldn't worry about hurting feelings. 

MrsGandthebeag

I said they "may."  I don't blame you for only wanting certain kids.  We had a kid free wedding.

crash2729

As long as you keep it to family only and don't make exceptions I don't think you'll have hurt feelings.

Address the envelope Mr&Mrs. bob smith and on rsvps you could do 2 seats reserved in your honor

Jen4948

Yes, this is okay.  If people choose to have hurt feelings, that is their problem.  You don't need to make it yours.  Just enforce the policy across the board with a no-exceptions rule.

32daisies

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rsvps-children?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:fc1d6a7f-b995-455b-8f84-050ff92a0bd3Post:c594a078-6d43-4f6c-8533-8d8ba600e466">Re: RSVPs Children</a>:
[QUOTE]If the kids aren't invited there's no need to provide childcare, and you definitely wouldn't put information like that on the RSVP card.  In fact, if you did  put info about a babysitter on the invitation, to me it would imply that kids are  invited and there would be a kid's room for them with a sitter at the reception.
Posted by NOLAbridealmost[/QUOTE]

I could be wrong,  but I thought the OP was saying all of her friends are local, and it's not going to be an undue hardship for them to get their own babysitters for the night, and therefore she doesn't feel bad about not inviting their kids to the wedding.

NOLAbridealmost

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rsvps-children?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:fc1d6a7f-b995-455b-8f84-050ff92a0bd3Post:18d4c39d-e880-4386-9bdb-f1d55fdf0a7e">Re: RSVPs Children</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: RSVPs Children : I could be wrong,  but I thought the OP was saying all of her friends are local, and it's not going to be an undue hardship for them to get their own babysitters for the night, and therefore she doesn't feel bad about not inviting their kids to the wedding.
Posted by 32daisies[/QUOTE]

Reading comprehension fail, party of 1.  Lol.