Ok, so I'm really struggling with trying to come up with a guest list number- combining lists that my FI and I came up with as well as both sides of our family gave us, and sorting through wish lists of who we think we should invite to our wedding. There are going to be lots of children there.
Now, before this turns into a children-bashing session. NO. We are not going to not invite them. This is not a debate of any kind. THERE WILL BE LOTS OF KIDS. End of discussion. We will have stuff for them to do, etc etc etc. Please don't hijack this thread and turn it into something it's not. I know a lot of people disagree with having kids at weddings. Whatever.
On to my point, which is, How young should kids be before I stop counting them as guests? I assume that if they take up a chair, they count as a guest. But then there are the issues of kids meals vs adult meals. So if they take up a chair but don't eat, then what? Basically, because my family and subsequently, my wedding, willl be crawling with children, how young is young enough to not count as a guest? I will obviously include "and family" or their name on the invite, but as far as numbers go for the space and catering, what do I do?