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Rehearsal Dinner

GardenMavenGardenMaven
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I am not entirely sure if this belongs here or in the pre-wedding party thread, so sorry if it is in the wrong place.

I am not sure who is supposed to be invited to the rehearsal dinner besides the wedding party and immediate family (like parents, siblings).  I would include any SO's as well.  90% of our guests are out of town guests and FI and I would be hosting.
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  • jessicabessicajessicabessica member
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    The people that need to be at the rehearsal and their SOs, plus immediate family.  I would include the officiant and her/his SO.  

    It's up to you if you want to have out of town guests or not.  We had a bbq the day before our wedding for everyone, since all guests were out of town, and it was great to get to hang out with people that had traveled in for your wedding in a more casual setting, but we didn't have a wedding party or rehearsal, so I could see it being different if you did.
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  • hoffsehoffse member
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    Your list sounds good.  Out of towners don't have to be invited - that's optional.
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  • GardenMavenGardenMaven
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    Thank you ladies!  I would love to have a RD that included all 150 out of town guests, but we wouldn't be able to afford it.  Hosting for the list you mentioned Stage, would be very doable.  
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Well, at a minimum, the couple, officiant and partner, wedding party members and partners, and immediate family and partners of the couple need to be there.  Whether or not you invite anyone else, like out-of-town guests, is up to you. 
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  • KellyBrian2013KellyBrian2013
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    We had our parents and our wedding party and their SOs at our RD. We also invited our grandparents, but they all declined the RD; neither his grandma nor his grandpa attended the rehearsal... my grandparents did, but wanted to get back to their hotel to rest for the wedding.
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  • PeledreamsofrainPeledreamsofrain member
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    What the others said, only the wedding party and SOs is really necessary.  The dinner is the 'thank you for coming' after rehersing.

    I would very much support just inviting the wedding party.  Our rehersal dinner had almost the entire wedding guestlist invited, and it was aweful. We had no say because we weren't funding it, but it was chaos to try to actually reherse.  All of the wedding party was asked to show up early, but of course, everyone showed up late, right when 60+ other people were milling about and gawping at us.

    On top of that , we as the couple were expected to circulate.  I was exhausted and sick from food poisoning the prior day, frazzled to meet so many new strangers, and trying to hunt down wedding party members in the crowd to coordinate them all because "i was the bride' and it was left to me to do it. 

    It. was. aweful.  I don't recommend it.
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  • krystin612krystin612 member
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    The nice thing about the RD is it can big as bg or small as yours would like or as your budget permits, you can do just bridal party and immediate family or all out of town guests. Check out this site for some great etiquette tips! http://www.celebrationideasonline.com/rehearsal-dinner-etiquette.html#sthash.EPUX60m1.dpbs
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