What are you letting go of?

jmesserunc

The big day is 11 days away and we're finally realizing some of this stuff just doesn't matter.  So, we're letting go of all the small details and letting our wedding planner handle them (just hired for the weekend of).  If they aren't exactly as planned, it's not the end of the world.What are/did you let go?

alliegator8

The big one for us was deciding to get married in NC instead of Hawaii. We both wanted to do it so badly knew it would be a difficult trip for our grand/ great grandparents to make. So we are doing our best to bring Hawaii to us! And that has been fun.

grace_uga

I let go of the seating chart.  It was too hard to do it until the very end and things kept changing. I also let go of the weather - it said it would thunderstorm and rain, but somehow we avoided that altogether.

jmesserunc

Also letting go of worrying about who is going to get sick.  My FMIL is freaked out about the flu.  Taking vitamins, sending sick people home at work (helps to be the boss!) and washing my hands.  This rest is in fate's hands.

birdcagebride

I let go of my out of town welcome bags. You just can't do it all.

arobertson62282

The biggest thing to let go of for me was the weather. I was good with hiring people to do stuff for me (or delegating responsibility), but the weather was one thing I couldn't control. My mom worried about wardrobes and the children (in the wedding) - how they would look, etc. For me though, as long as everyone was there, the rest of it didn't matter.

allie76

I let go of OOT bags and an elaborate day-of timeline. (My timeline was very basic). Also let go of doing a thank you parasol.

Jessica82799

Yesterday I let go of cute table numbers and bought the folded tent card kind at party city for a grand total of $6. Before that I let go of votive candle "escort cards." I will be printing the regular kind and I am pretty sure nobody cares. Currently I am trying to let go of my stress...no luck yet lol

lacey0482

I second pp and let go of the detailed timeline. We actually still finished everything we needed to do early and had about an hour to just sit and hang out!

BentleyBaby

I'm only 11 months away.. but already I'm letting go of OOT bags & bathroom baskets. I thought I wanted them early on but I'm just finding I don't care to put them together and I've been to plenty of weddings that don't have either & it didn't throw me off one bit.

Pinky09

I let go of the labels on the candy bar bags. It was a cute idea but too time consuming. I also made enough programs for one per a couple instead of everyone. Oh and also poms for the church pews ( I made 6 instead of the 12, geesh good thing b/c those things almost gave me a meltdown)

dontworrylover

I let go of the seating chart. So many people from both of our workplaces were "maybes" that it just wasn't worth the effort!

BentleyBaby

Oh I also let go of my "adults-only" wedding. Because it will be OOT/Destination. And because there are several people who have young children/toddlers & I would rather have them come with their kiddos than not come at all. But part of me still wishes I could have adults only.

bagantt

I let go of a May wedding (5/1/10) so that FI's brother would be able to make it.  The next available date for our Venue and Photographer (both of which we had already booked) was 6/19/10.  The date isn't as catchy as 5/1/10 but it will always be our wedding day now I'm in the process of letting go and preparing myself to let go of other things down the road. 

jmesserunc

Would it be tacky to let go of a hand written thank you note to everyone helping with the wedding?  I barely have time to wrap all of their gifts.  My close friends already got thank you notes at the shower they threw for me.

midnite007x

we have had to let go of the hardest thing of all.....HONEYMOON :(also:-seating chart-water bottle labels-timelinethings i considered at first ans were "must haves" but now as i go along i am like "eeeeh, not so much".....oh yeah and now i wont be doing matchbooks, lol

BentleyBaby

Jessica- I think hand written notes would still be nice. You don't have to write them a 5 page letter or anything but a store-bought thank you note with a hand-written "Thank you so much for being a part of our day. We really appreciate your love & support. Love, us" would really only take you a few minutes.

firemansfiance

We've let go of having a big party reception. FI's family is very anti-alcohol with a few of them being former alcoholics so it's just not worth the drama... or the money. So we're having the wedding at 2:00 and desserts and finger foods instead.