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Thank you card for Bridesmaid I have never met

squirtlebotsquirtlebot
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I have 7 bridesmaids and 6 of them have been awesome.  Writing a thank you note for them was easy as pie. I have this 7th bridesmaid that I have never met.  She is my fiance's cousin and I have never spoken to her on the phone much less met her.  How do I write a thank you card for her?
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  • hoffsehoffse member
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    Why is she your bridesmaid if you've never even met her?
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  • squirtlebotsquirtlebot
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    It really meant a lot to my husband to be that she was in the wedding.  They are cousins and they grew up together. She lives in another state and has an insane work schedule.
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  • misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
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    What are you thanking her for now??
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  • squirtlebotsquirtlebot
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    Heck if I know...showing up I suppose. I wrote all the other girls heartfelt thank you notes, just thought I was supposed to write something for her too...
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  • hoffsehoffse member
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    I'd probably do generic "so excited to be a part of the family and look forward to getting to know you in the future" type language.
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  • wrigleyvillewrigleyville member
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    You really don't need to write them thank you notes until after the wedding.
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  • Summer2011BrideSummer2011Bride member
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    Yeah I'm confused about what you are thanking them for. You don't have to say "Thank you for being a BM" before the wedding. I did write my BMs cards to go along with the gifts I gave them at the RD and then a separate thank you note after the wedding for wedding gifts they gave. I also thanked them for shower gifts prior to the wedding. But that was it.



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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    I understand wanting to make your guy happy and if it doesn't work for you two to have her on his side, then it's nice of you to do. I like hoffse's suggestion of "excited to be part of the family" She won't know that you sent the others thank you cards, maybe just send a blank card with sort of an introduction? She may appreciate the note and if she's semi shy until she gets to know people, a note may start things off easier than a phone call. It is your special day but she will also be spending $ and time to be a part of it as well as thrown in with a bunch of girls that she doesn't know and she may be feeling awkward.
    Who is standing with the two of you? If there is a brother or cousin of yours on his side, maybe they could switch to your side so there is more uniformity,if that is part of the problem? I'm old and having my 2 sons on my side, my guy (old too!) is standing with his 2 sons and daughter so the matching, traditional part won't pertain to us.
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  • courtski2004courtski2004 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_thank-you-card-for-bridesmaid-i-have-never-met?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:fe13d10b-2f63-44cd-88f3-e07ac12454a5Post:c7902e17-e75c-40d1-bdbe-2cb57e08c823">Re: Thank you card for Bridesmaid I have never met</a>:
    [QUOTE]Heck if I know<strong>...showing up I suppose</strong>. I wrote all the other girls heartfelt thank you notes, just thought I was supposed to write something for her too...
    Posted by squirtlebot[/QUOTE]

    Why would you thank her prior to the wedding for showing up if she hasn't, uh, <em>shown up</em> yet? I would meet her first before writing an awkward thank you note. If you have to grasp for straws to come up with something to thank someone for, you probably shouldn't write it at all.
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  • ChristineNBChristineNB
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    If you don't know this person at all then why don't you and your FI have her stand on his side.  Me and my DH had mixed gender sides so that our sides represented the people that we were close too. 
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  • JoanE2012JoanE2012 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_thank-you-card-for-bridesmaid-i-have-never-met?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:fe13d10b-2f63-44cd-88f3-e07ac12454a5Post:cbc63638-48ce-42b6-83ca-a054a223571d">Thank you card for Bridesmaid I have never met</a>:
    [QUOTE]I have 7 bridesmaids and 6 of them have been awesome.  Writing a thank you note for them was easy as pie. I have this 7th bridesmaid that I have never met.  She is my fiance's cousin and I have never spoken to her on the phone much less met her.  How do I write a thank you card for her?
    Posted by squirtlebot[/QUOTE]

    She should be standing on your FI's side, not yours.  Also, what are you sending out thank you cards for??
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