Thank yous and monetary gifts

Caitlynmk

Hello ladies! I am just wondering a couple of things about thank yous... Our wedding is in 2 weeks and we just got a few wedding cards in the mail from guests who aren't able to make it. Should we send thank yous right away or wait until after the wedding with the rest of the thank yous?? Also, if they included a check, should we wait to cash it until after the wedding? Seems like a weird question but I just wasn't sure what the etiquette is on that. Finally, for monetary gifts, how do you word that in the thank you? I assume I'd just say something along the lines of "thank you so much for your generousity" ??

Thanks ladies!

Jen4948

I think you can and should start writing thank-yous ASAP.

As to the checks, if they're made out to you individually, I'd deposit them now but not spend in your individual accounts, but hold off on depositing any made out to you both until you have a joint checking account.

As for how to word it, I think the most polite gracious thing to do is thank the giver for whatever you plan to spend the cash on, and express how much you and your FI appreciate their making that possible.

Caitlynmk

Thank you all so much for the great advice!!

michellesean

But if you aren't planning on having a joint checking I'd just wait until after the wedding not everybody decides to join their bank accounts. Definitely mention something you are planning on spending it on in thank yous tho.