Tricky Family Invite Problem

emeddietorres

I invited my cousins on my mom's side to my wedding even though I don't see them much, also I was invited to one of theirs (though couldn't go). Should I invite their mom (my aunt) even though I haven't seen her in years and we don't keep in touch. Also her and my mom don't talk anymore because of past situations. Is it rude not to invite her but invite her kids? I keep in touch with them a bit on facebook.

Beachy730

You don't have to invite them or her, its your choice.  One question though, did you already send your invites out?  You said "invited" so I'm assuming you did.  If that's the case, then I'm sure they mentioned the invite to their mother who already would know she wasn't invited, so inviting her now would be worse probably.  If you haven't already sent them out, then its your choice.  I know in my family it would be unheard of, but I have a close family.

emeddietorres

Thanks for the reply, I have already talked to the cousins (to get their addresses) though not sent out yet, but that's a good point. I hate the situation, I get along with everyone but don't want my mom to feel awkward. Maybe I should just invite her, she probably won't come anyway... hmmm

JennaV26

What does your mom have to say about it? If she's cool with it I'd just say invite her to keep things simple. If she's not okay with it than don't.

Beachy730

Yeah, if money or space isn't an issue I would probably just invite her.  I tried avoiding any hurt feelings, or future drama that could be caused from my wedding, so when in doubt we invited.  And like you said, if you and your mom aren't close to her there's a decent chance she won't even come.

misslol

I'd invite her (if it's cool with your mum) and let her make the call.  I've just been invited to my cousin's wedding, but they didn't invite my mum and I find it deeply offensive.  

I know the situation is different to yours, but I'd err on the side of causing least offence.