Need help with a situation...

lmohr25

This is going to be my second marriage. My first ended in dealth. Should I invite my former MIL to this wedding? We are close. We talk all the time still. She wasnt ok with me being involved with anyone new after her son at first, but she has gotten used to the idea. She has also met my FH. I think it would be too wierd especially since this wedding is way more extreme then the last. I have kids from her son and they are asking if she is invited. I just told them IDK yet. Any ideas on this???

Beachy730

I would invite her probably, and let her decide if its too weird for her. 

sarabear23

I would say yes, invite her. She was your family, and you shouldn't alienate her just because her son/your husband passed away. If she is happy for you, and wants to be there, invite her.

JCM10

Assuming your children will have a relationship with this woman (their grandmother)...I'd invite her.

golden1215

I would invite her as long as your FI is okay with it.  I think you don't cut people out of your life just because of deaths- or even divorces in some cases- but I could understand not inviting her if it would make your new H feel weird OR if it would make you too sad/nostalgic on your wedding day.

lmohr25

Thank you for the advice. My kids have a wonderful relationship with their grandma. They go and stay with her when they can.

LesPaul

I say invite her, especially since you have children with her son.  I invited 14 members of my ex-H's family to my wedding, because we're still family and I wanted them to be there.