Shower complaint/confessions

tlv204

I just got an invitation to a cousin's bridal shower. She's having a DW in May (I think, I don't even know when or where it is honestly) and I'm not invited, I don't know if any family members are other than her parents. I'm not upset to not be invited to the wedding, I didn't really expect to be, but there are several reasons I don't really want to go to the shower, one of which is that I won't know anyone else there. However, I'm pretty sure I have to. My grandmother would skin me alive if I didn't go and my cousin is coming in from New York for it, so I know I have to go. But I don't wanna.

Soo....any complaints or confessions from any of you?

Nebb

Im in my friends wedding and I emailed the MOH (friends sister) to offer to make the shower invitations - I live 4 hours away and cant really help with anything, so I offered. This was on the 2nd and I still havnt gotten a response. I finally asked my friend what was up and told her I emailed her sister and was informed that her sister has more important things to think about right now and cant be bothered to reply to me. Since then I have seen her posting a bunch of inane stuff on my friends wall. As I see it, if you can post on FB you can take 2 seconds to reply to my damn email. Im pissed off about this, not 100% sure why, but I still am. I think its rude not to reply to emails, even to just acknowledge you received it.

ricksang

Dang, I don't think you should not have to go! But at least there will be cake, right?

I don't really have a good confession, but I just woke up at 6 pm.

laurenclaire1386

Confession: FI and I have been kicking around the idea of a DW in Mexico. We've checked with most of the pertinent family members, and everyone thinks they can make it, which is way awesome. But I already know my grandparents won't come because my grandmother will.not.fly. It pisses me off because it's like, damn woman, 80% of the world has been flying for years now, get with it. But then I waffle and I'm like, "well, we could just get married at home, like we originally planned." I'm scared of letting my grandparents know our plans, if we do go through the DW. But we really like the DW idea and don't really wanna give it up because one person won't get on an airplane. Sorry for the novel. I've been thinking about it a bunch today.

Nebb

Im also pissed about an etsy seller who I messaged on Saturday who hasnt replied to me on whether a certain customization is possible. There is nothing on her site saying she is away or anything, so Im not sure if I should message again or what. YES, I havent got anything better to do than sit and wait for emails.

RachNRich

confession: I hate showering. 

Brie2010

Shower related confession: My mom is planning and paying for my whole shower but listing my sister and aunt as the hosts because she knows it's not proper etiquette.  She's a total control freak and can't let go.

Non-shower related confession: I'm seriously considering running the Chicago Marathon this October.  Even crazier, I'm considering running the Kansas City Marathon the next week as well.  I know it's ridiculous but I want something to throw myself into 100% post-wedding so I don't have wedding withdrawal. 

ricksang

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[QUOTE]Im in my friends wedding and I emailed the MOH (friends sister) to offer to make the shower invitations - I live 4 hours away and cant really help with anything, so I offered. This was on the 2nd and I still havnt gotten a response. I finally asked my friend what was up and told her I emailed her sister and was informed that her sister has more important things to think about right now and cant be bothered to reply to me. Since then I have seen her posting a bunch of inane stuff on my friends wall. As I see it, if you can post on FB you can take 2 seconds to reply to my damn email. Im pissed off about this, not 100% sure why, but I still am. I think its rude not to reply to emails, even to just acknowledge you received it.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

That was rude of her to say! I'd be pissed too.

Nebb

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[QUOTE]confession: I hate showering. 
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]
Me too, but only because I hate styling my hair. Curly hair is a pain in the ass, so I hate showering or washing it.

tlv204

Ha rach- one of the reasons I don't like working out regularly is that I feel like I have to shower a lot more often and more vigorously. When I'm not working out I only take half ass showers since I only wash my hair every other day.

Nebb- I do that with emails too, and it irritates me too

And ricks- There effing better be cake! They're all snooty suburban people (i.e. they're registered at Williams-Sonoma, C&B, and Bloomingdales and are only inviting like 20  people to the wedding as far as I know. But I don't live in New York so maybe they don't have cheap places there), so there better at least be good food.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]Shower related confession: My mom is planning and paying for my whole shower but listing my sister and aunt as the hosts because she knows it's not proper etiquette.  She's a total control freak and can't let go. Non-shower related confession: I'm seriously considering running the Chicago Marathon this October.  Even crazier, I'm considering running the Kansas City Marathon the next week as well.  I know it's ridiculous but I want something to throw myself into 100% post-wedding so I don't have wedding withdrawal. 
Posted by Brie2010[/QUOTE]

I'm considering doing a half marathon two weeks after my wedding if I'm in enough shape. It's a pretty flat course. I'll do a few 5ks and 10ks before then.

RachNRich

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shower complain/confessions : Me too, but only because I hate styling my hair. Curly hair is a pain in the ass, so I hate showering or washing it.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

<div>I don't have curly hair, but this is part of the reason. If I let my hair air-dry, it looks like poo. I can't go outside with it wet; it will freeze. And I am just too lazy to do it daily.</div><div>
</div><div>But, lately, it's just so cold. To shower, I'd have to take my clothes off, walk to the bathroom in the cold, get in to water that's never warm enough, and do more work that I do in an entire day. So not worth it....I'd rather be stinky.<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-embarassed.gif" border="0" alt="Embarassed" title="Embarassed" /></div>

RachNRich

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[QUOTE] Non-shower related confession: I'm seriously considering running the Chicago Marathon this October.  Even crazier, I'm considering running the Kansas City Marathon the next week as well.  I know it's ridiculous but I want something to throw myself into 100% post-wedding so I don't have wedding withdrawal. 
Posted by Brie2010[/QUOTE]

<div>I'll confess that I am proud of you (in a non-creepy way) for pushing yourself so hard, and accomplishing so much in this fitness realm. </div><div>I'll also confess that the thought of this makes me tired, and that makes me sad---because I used to love running, and now can hardly walk without nearly keeling over. </div>

jajph1974

I confess that I'm feeling really lazy tonight and just had a blueberry frosted poptart for dinner

AdeleDazeem

Lauren - any chance you can cruise to the destination?  My fiance and I wanted the DW but grandmother couldn't fly.  We picked Bermuda so she could cruise in.  It worked out really well.

Brie2010

Aww, rach.  (hug)

I can't register yet, but I'm 95% sure I'm going to do Chicago.  KC is still doubtful.  I have no idea if I can, but I doubt I'll ever be in such a good position to try as I am right now ever again.

stina93446

My shower complaint: My sister/moh threw my shower. She asked where I wanted it to be thrown and I told her that I thought having it at our gma's beach house was a good idea. She said no way. She preffered to throw it at my mom's house. Fine, why did she ask? I knew that the beach was a better venue because it was closer for all those who were traveling from out of town, it was prettier, and was about 15 degrees cooler. We had the shower at my mom's house on the patio in the middle of August in CA. It was really hot and DH's 94 year old grandma was biitching about the heat. Other than that, I had a great shower. But honestly, I wish she would have not asked me or at least thought about the weather.

tlv204

Confession: I judge alcohol snobs. I can't stand the taste of Blue Moon or nearly all amber beers or stout beers, but do I call them crappy and look down on you for drinking them? No. Well now I am, but I wouldn't have if no one had called the beer produced by the most helpful company in St. Louis (even though it is no longer an American company) "crappy."

I also prefer my wine to taste like fruit juice. Does that mean I am white trash or a bad person? No. It means that I have different taste buds than you. What a magical concept.

RachNRich

I also prefer my wine to taste like fruit juice. Does that mean I am white trash or a bad person? No. It means that I have different taste buds than you. What a magical concept. 

tlv, everything you said here just made me giggle-snort. 

laurenclaire1386

Joy, thanks for the suggestion. I haven't thought of that. I don't think we'll end up doing it because I honestly don't want to be trapped on a boat with my family the day after the wedding. The resort we're looking at will let you resort-hop, so to speak, and we could split our stay between two different resorts. We were planning to go to another resort for a few days after the wedding and do the HM thing (and get away from our families

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

TLV, if that's in reference to me saying I hate Bud Light but love Belgian beer - it's just my taste. I don't care what anyone else drinks.

AdeleDazeem

oooh...  ya - I didn't mean for you all to cruise together at all

My fiance and I are flying and staying.  Everyone else can either cruise or fly in because we picked a wedding day when the cruise ship is in port.

Just a thought for you.  The pull (and convience) of a DW was too much to give up for my fiance and I.  Good luck!

laurenclaire1386

Oh, well I'm a big ole dumbass. Ok, cruising the g-parents down sounds like a friggin fantastic idea. Dude, thanks, seriously.

AdeleDazeem

Happy to help!

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]Im in my friends wedding and I emailed the MOH (friends sister) to offer to make the shower invitations - I live 4 hours away and cant really help with anything, so I offered. This was on the 2nd and I still havnt gotten a response. I finally asked my friend what was up and told her I emailed her sister and was informed that her sister has more important things to think about right now and cant be bothered to reply to me. <strong>Since then I have seen her posting a bunch of inane stuff on my friends wall. As I see it, if you can post on FB you can take 2 seconds to reply to my damn email.</strong> Im pissed off about this, not 100% sure why, but I still am. I think its rude not to reply to emails, even to just acknowledge you received it.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

OMG this drives me nuts too. I have a friend who is always being dramatic for being out of touch, posting on my wall "I know I've been such a bad friend, I'm sorry, I'll call you tonight." Then she won't call, but I'll see that she was up until 3am on FB posting random fuckingquizzes about herself all night. Like, a shitton of them. Apparently knowing "which Twilight character [she is] most like" is more important/entertaining than calling her friend as promised.

This same "friend" is actually part of my shower confession. I live in Mass., but family and friends are mostly in Colorado. So my sister planned my shower in CO so that my closest girlfriends could be there. Said friend was one of them (at least at the time), and she had two months to make time in her schedule to be at my shower for one afternoon. She works at a restaurant, so it would have been as easy as arranging that day as her day off or switching shifts with someone. She never RSVP'd, but said she was so excited to come.

One hour before my shower, she calls and says she didn't realize she had to work that day and can't come, she's stuck at work. She said she might get off in time, but then she <em>forgot</em> that her boyfriend (who is her ride since she doesn't know how to drive) was supposed to be <em>in his cousin's wedding that day</em>, so he wasn't available to drive her. Also, she was expected to be at that wedding too, but "forgot!" I'm still annoyed at her flakiness on this. I basically flew to CO to see her, and all she had to do was show up. Grr.

fangsiting

Brie-
You should definitely run the Chicago marathon.  It's such a great race.  The crowd support is amazing.  Chicago would be your first marathon, right?  I would not recommend running a second marathon a week later.  There are plenty of people who run marathons back to back, but you probably want to know how you feel after one before committing to a second.  Is there a half-marathon with the KC race?  Even a half one week after a marathon would be hugely impressive. 

Nebb

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[QUOTE]Confession: I judge alcohol snobs. I can't stand the taste of Blue Moon or nearly all amber beers or stout beers, but do I call them crappy and look down on you for drinking them? No. Well now I am, but I wouldn't have if no one had called the beer produced by the most helpful company in St. Louis (even though it is no longer an American company) "crappy." I also prefer my wine to taste like fruit juice. Does that mean I am white trash or a bad person? No. It means that I have different taste buds than you. What a magical concept.
Posted by tlv204[/QUOTE]
I love you so much sometimes. I feel the same way - red wine, in my mind, should taste like grapejuice, and I hate it because it doesnt! Ditto everything else too.

Brie2010

It would be my first marathon.   KC does have a half (and a 5K) which is definitely in the running.  I'm feeling pretty good about Chicago, but I want to participate in KC somehow too.   Chicago's nice and flat with lots of crowd support; KC is supposedly well organized with good crowd support too, but it's REALLY hilly. 

I just need a project!

tlv204

Nebb- the feeling is mutual

Mery- I don't remember who said it. I don't care who hates what kind of beer, I just didn't like how many people said that they "judge people who drink crappy beer." 

ExpatPumpkin

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[QUOTE] They're all snooty suburban people (i.e. they're registered at Williams-Sonoma, C&B, and Bloomingdales and are only inviting like 20  people to the wedding as far as I know. 
Posted by tlv204[/QUOTE]

<div>Well they sure dropped the ball on basic etiquette.  I don't think you have any obligation to attend this shower if you're not invited to the wedding.  Take a stand ;)
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smokeybailey

Brie,
A marathon a week after the first would not be very good for your legs.  In fact, you are supposed to take some time off.  I couldn't imagine running even a half the week after my first full in October.

Eh, but I'm lazy.  This year I am doing the SF half and the LB full again and that's it.  Marathon running is expensive.