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Shower gift thank you etiquette

samorsamor
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in New Jersey
I've been starting to receive some gifts off of my registry in the mail.  I wanted to open them at the shower (next month).  Should I send a thank you note now (the gift is itemized on the receipt that came in the box... I haven't looked b/c I want to be surprised but FI has, haha!) or can I send a note out after the shower?
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Re: Shower gift thank you etiquette

  • ddelo23ddelo23
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    edited December 2011
    i'd just wait till after the shower. 
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  • 30may09bride30may09bride
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    edited December 2011
    If you aren't planning on actually opening them till the shower, then send the note then.  I had all my registry gifts sent to my parents house, and my mom held on to them until the shower, I didn't know who sent what until I opened them at the shower. 
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  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    edited December 2011
    Are the givers going to be AT the shower? If not, I'd personally open them now and send a note now. If so, I'd just wait. But get those notes out ASAP after the shower so they don't have to wait too long for a thank you.
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  • samorsamor
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    edited December 2011
    Some of them weren't wrapped and I'm assuming the ones who are sending me stuff won't be at the shower.  I just didn't want to offend anyone if I decided to send out thank you's after the shower, esp. if it's been sitting at my place for almost a month.
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  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    edited December 2011
    My main concern, if I sent a gift to your house ahead of time, would be that you didn't get it. So a note would be nice so I knew you received it. Also, if they're not going to be there, I personally wouldn't want to lug a present all the way there, open it in front of everyone but the giver, then lug it all the way back home. I'm sure I'd have a ton of other stuff to transport home, plus i'm lazy :P
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  • caketimecaketime
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    edited December 2011
    If they won't be there then I would send the note now so they know you received it.  Also, it's a few less for you to have to do later on.
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  • alliecarrie41alliecarrie41 member
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    edited December 2011
    there is no reason to bring gifts sent to your house to your shower location just to open in front of people.  completely unnecessary.  if they sent to your house, it was for a reason, maybe they aren't coming or whatever.  open now, send a thank you, and if they wind up coming to your shower as well, make mention to what they gave you so they feel included and send them another thank you card afterwards.
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